I don't post very often since my sitch seems so different from others. I have no doubt my XH is experiencing a MLC but has not been mean and I never got the ILYBINILWY speech. He had an OW, but it ended a while ago. We have been slowly reconnecting, but he takes two steps backward sometimes. Now is one of those times. He just called me saying he was not having a very good day, depressed, etc. about everything that has happened and is happening. He has no money, started a new job since he lost his other one, and is very confused. In his words, his head is f'd-up and he doesn't know how to fix it.
Now, I haven't told him that he is probably having a MLC. I have been still and not brought up any R talk since we have been reconnecting slowly. He calls everyday, sometimes 2 and 3 times just to talk--nothing about us specifically--it's more like how you would talk to a friend. I'm wondering if there is a book out there I can get for him to help him understand what he is going through. Or should I just leave it alone? He is not a religious person, so one talking about God, etc. is not going to go over very well. I know I can't fix this for him, but I think he needs help and if I could point him in the right direction to help him understand, maybe that is what I could do without seeming to control or pressure him.
He has been to counseling, but he said it didn't help. Probably didn't have the right counselor. Now he can't afford one.
