Thank you so much for those of you who gave me input on my original thread "Have I waited too long?" Things have been going really well!! I've been working on the things I learned in SSM, and really sticking to my goals. I feel really good about myself and H has responded. I know things aren't "fixed" yet, but we're on a really positive path.
My sexuality has been reawakened, but not in a way of "alright I'd better start having more sex or he's going to leave". More like I'm working on myself and paying attention to my sexuality...I feel sexier, more attractive, and have been initiating sex frequently. Last night H initiated for the first time since I don't remember when. I think that was a big thing for him...he had been shot down so many times before. I feel like he's starting to open up to the changes in me...each day brings him one step closer to believing in me again. This morning upon awakening (with me being very cuddly, something I didn't use to do), his first words were "You know, you really are a good wife". The last time I heard these words they were followed by "except for the sex part".
He's also spending more time with me instead of shut away in his computer room. I just feel so much closer to him than I have in years. One big thing I did was to stop asking about the R and "just do it". The one big talk we had about a week ago he admitted his culpability in letting things go on until they got so bad. He apologized for that. I really just wanted to say thanks to everyone on this board...I've learned so much from reading all your posts. I'm so glad I found this site...it will help me stay on track and not lose focus when the old ways try to sneak back in. You all are a wonderful bunch of people and I wish you happiness and success! Cat
Me:40 (LD) H:46 (HD) T:9 M:4 1st bomb:H PA in 2002 (before M, but living together. It ended when I found out and we worked on things) 2nd bomb:ILYBNILWY, can't go on this way, 11-11-07 No kids together
