I know the answer to this question but thought I would seek out others advice.
Wife visited a lawyer in October and filed in November. I immediately suggested MC to see what could be done. The first meeting was to discuss what should be said to our 17 and 19 year old sons. The therapist was emphatic that I not appear to be "wounded" at my wife's decision. In fact she said that I shoud say that our decision to separate was a mutual one and to not tell them of the D paperwork until later. Now this did not sit well with me but in the interest of our children I agreed.
On the day after christmas we told our sons that we have agreed to separate based on a mutual decision. The next step is to tell them that divorce paperwork has been filed but again not to place blame. I am all for this to protect the children. However if our sons were to find out that this was all mom's decision their reaction would be different.
My wife moved out of the house on January 6. I presume that our children can put two and two together and see what is happening.
My wife has said that if the children had a serious reaction to her decision she would reconsider.
I do not intend on telling the children that this is their mothers doing-anyone out there face the same situation?
I was 22 when my parents separated. I can tell you I feel like it was as bad on me as it would have been if I were young. If your wife moved out, I am sure they know. Even if you tell them, your kids are probably not going to run to your W and tell her how they feel.
Don't put them in the middle. Trust me I was put in the middle and have some resentment towards my mother for doing that to me. They shouldn't have to deal with that. It made me feel like it was on my shoulders. If I made him feel guilty enough then he would come back to her.
Do you really want your W to come back because your kids gave her a guilt trip?
