I am initiating the "let's go to counseling" phase of the new year. I have done some research in my city and have a "short list" of folks I think would be able to address the issues of infidelity etc. I have some questions for anyone who is or was in therapy with a spouse:
1) How did you locate your therapist? Did you try more than one?
2) Did you share the responsibility of finding a therapist with your spouse?
3) What things did you find "tipped you off" that this might be the right therapist for your sitch? Conversely what things turned you off?
4) Has anybody done any IMAGO/Harville Hendricks stuff? It looks interesting to me.
Nothing exciting to report here. I see small movements toward me from my spouse and overall things are ok. As per usual they could be moving faster as far as I'm concerned but they aren't so...I can be mad or I can go on. For now, I'll go on!
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
1- I tried first for pastoral counceling, the first one was so so, the last PC I found was awesome, I did a yahoo search, the one we have now I found through my insurance, I tried to look for websites so I could read their bios
2- I'm always the one doing the research, my H doesn't have the time and resources (i'm on the computer all day) so I did the search.
3-If my H responded, it was a good sign, though I did have a great C but H was reluctant at the time with our overall sitch, so that C didn't work out well in the end.
4- I looked for an Imago T, but it was hard to find them, the best one didnt' take insurance and one other one was too far
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
