Lan, I agree, literally; too much DB capital at risk. Better play it safe, let her make the first risky move in bed and also show some spontaneous remorse for the PA. Before this happens the light is still amber.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
She seems to be really enjoying the weekends with you. What can you do to move that feeling towards the weekdays too?
You got me thinking on this. So tonight is W turn at the gym so I decide to do somthing different. I got D6 dressed in a tracksuit and we both went down to the gym to give W a little surprise and just to say hello. W seemed to apprieciate this and looked very happy.
Later on at home W says we need to get some "nibbles" in the house for midweek, we've got nothing to nibble on. (Nibbles = popcorn etc.) Ok so now W is adding extra nibbles to the weekly shopping.
Last night W and I went to bed together, W was in very good mood, we lay in bed together chatting about her work and D6. W inter-twinded her legs with mine as we chatted. After a while she said we could talk all night but lets get some sleep. So lights out, then W turns her back to me, pulls my arm around her waist and backs into me. So we lay there in the "Spoon" position, very close but I had to make allowances for my obvious {censored}. We lay like that until W falls asleep. I have to move away cos I couldn't take any anymore without spoiling things and trying for more. It felt really good being that close to her, feeling her against me, smelling her. ( I'll stop there or I'll end up writing an erotic novel).
This morning, W and I get into normal morning routine, D6 hasn't brushed her teeth properly, W complains I haven't brought a cup of water or her meds. She's talking to me as if nothing significant happened last night. Well maybe not significant for her, but very significant for me.
I call this real progress, so I will continue to go with the flow.
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing
Hey Lan, Congrats on the progress. I hear you on the close contact thing. There's just somethings that you can't control.
Heim hit it right on the head though. Going with the flow also means being prepared for her to pull away for no apparent reason. Not to rain on your parade, but it can be confusing and hurtful when/if she does pull back.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
I thought I was going to have to walk around with my {Censored} all day, first close contact with W in six months goes along way.
But anyway thanks for bringing me back down to earth, yes I realise that there's still a long way to go, still plenty of ups and downs. And yes I'll be on my guard ready for when or if W pulls back from me for no apparent reason.
Friday night will be another movie night in, the cold winter night are just starting feeling good now.
first close contact with W in six months goes along way.