Hi there my friend! I'm sorry it's taken me a while to get on your thread. Thanks for sending me your email.
I'm glad to see that your W is under a doctor's care for depression. I often wish my H would see a doctor or a C for his issues also. It's hard to sit back and watch the destruction you know is going on in their minds and not be able to do anything about it. I know they have to handle it themselves, but we do love them, so it's hard.
Good for you for letting her know that she needs to speak up about what's bothering her.
Wish I could come across the pond and give you a big hug!
Take care-
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
OK, been off the air for far too long. Life is still limbo like. I haven't discussed, but I am sure her and OP still talk - no meeting up though - too far (though he did send her a Valentine's card - OK I peeked - nothing much, just refered to himself as her long distance lover - GET A LIFE!).
W only has couple of weeks to go in old job (same company as him) and then she has 2 weeks off looking after children and then starts new job. We have been getting along fine. Intimacy is there and occaissionally she comes to me to kiss me goodbye. I still have nagging doubts.
Still, it has been 9 months since she last saw him and the only contact is with mobile phones, so she can hold a torch for a person who:
1. Wasn't there when she was sick. 2. Doesn't cuddle her at night. 3. Isn't loving and attentive.
I think, though I may be very wrong, that it is the excitement for them both. They both carry on with their own lives (making assumption about his) and have the family life, but get the thrill of sneaking behind backs. I'm sure that one day theu will grow up.
