Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Since it was up for all of 10 seconds before the thread locked.. here was my last post:
Ahhh CMC, thanks!! Ugh sorry your H found it... glad you have a new name you can post under.
Just some quick journaling.. I guess lots of us had kinda bittersweet holidays. For me, good times with H - followed now by some anxiety again. New Year's is over.. is he now going to drop another bomb?? Am I about to?? Coming up on a year since he moved out the first time, too.
It's also a bit freeing in a way. I felt sorta "trapped" during the holidays (and if *I* felt that way I can only imagine H did too). Just trying to stay calm and detached, semi-successfully. Let my hopes get a bit too high again, though.
Geez... who do ya think LOOKS more like my H based on these???)
Anyway... pretty great dress for $20, eh??
I think I've decided to re-start the Body For Life workout program next week. I don't really do New Year's resolutions per se, but exercising more has been on my "next goals to reach" list for a long time. Bellydancing is fun but once-twice a week is not enough exercise!! I'll use it for one of my cardio days though.
I did two of the 12 week "Challenges" years ago before breaking my leg and I felt SO great after (and built so much muscle that I lost only 2 lbs but also 2 dress sizes in the first 12 weeks!). I have to modify some of it to fit with my muscle limitations, but it's really motivating to have a particular plan to follow I think. My eating plan's already pretty good so don't think I'll follow that part of the BFL program, but I'm excited to start the exercise part again.
Hope everyone's doing well! I'll check on a few of ya now, then off to do some of my BFL planning/prep work.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I think you need to find an excuse to get all dressed up for a night out.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Nik - very beautiful pics. Thanks for stopping by my thread and posting. I like posts from you, they're real. Let's hope for a great 2008. I'm trying to keep focused and stay positive. The beginning of this year has been hard because of H trip out of town with OW. But, "Feelings are NOT Facts" is my new mantra.
Happy 2008
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
blindsided.... just so you know, my H went out of town, and met OW ... he lied about it too. but I did bust my D so it can happen to you too. Don't let it stop you fighting and don't let it consume you either.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Nikki! You look SOOO good! that dress looked awesome on you. you have really good legs too. or leg. haha, I couldn't see the other one.
you know, the pic with H is still better than the last one I remember. He looks like he's geniunely smiling... even if he doesn't look quite so blessed as the host looks (he looks like he's hugging a superstar!)
hey, how do you do that body for life? I think I've seen it at the gym advertised. maybe I should do that too. I can't seem to get motivated enough to start and keep going.
and hurry up and get in your room little girl! I think your just making up paint problems! lol
so glad to hear you had a good time. hey, and if anyone needs to worry about a bomb, it's him! so let that anxiety roll off you.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Blindsided You're so right, feelings are not facts! I'm glad you like seeing my posts. I know some of 'em come across kinda harsh, but it's only cause I care.
Oldtimer Thank you so much!! 2008's gonna be a good one, I can feel it.
ST Thanks for your encouraging words to Blindsided!
Thanks for checking in!! Are you home yet?? Hope you had a GREAT holiday!!
On the outfit.. thanks for the compliment, too! haha well, I was trying to kinda hide my brace on the one leg, so yep, looks like I only have the other one. I hate wearing nylons but gotta admit they're good for making legs look nice!
Wow that is very cool what you noticed on the pic with my H (and the host). Thank you!! I looked again and I kinda think you're right. It's definitely a genuine smile from my H. I have soo many w/the fake smile from him. haha a superstar??? Well, friend/host kinda acted like that too (he is great for ego boosts!).. funny you said that though.
Before I get into the workout.. on the paint.. I know it sounds like I'm making excuses!! I really know that I need to "move" paint or not, though. I honestly want to find a better paint, even if I'm painting around myself for awhile. I just need to find the courage. I had a it a couple months ago, I need to get it back!! It's funny how one week I can be looking at condos and the next terrified to move my clothes into another room of our house, eh??
About Body for Life - hmmm maybe we need to start a BFL thread somewhere that we can "check in" with each other. That accountability is a huge motivator! I already had 2 people email me asking me to help keep them accountable and I keep thinking "Um yeah, if *I* manage to stick w/it!" Daily check ins can be great though.
If you're following the full thing, it's technically a 12 week long "challenge" that you sign up for. You take before photos, follow the plan, take after photos, and enter the contest. I always entered but never expecting to win anything (the winners take it way beyond the plan, I think!). But I've "won" t-shirts and stuff, it's kinda fun, and it really IS amazing looking at your own before/after photos.
The way the actual workout goes is basically:
Day 1: upper body workout (weights) Day 2: 20 minute aerobic workout (super targeted hi/lo thing that works WELL.. I ended up loving aerobics days just because they were short but still effective!) Day 3: legs and ab workout (body weight / weights) Day 4: 20 minute aerobics Day 5: Upper body workout Day 6: 20 min. aerobivs Day 7: no exercise ("free" day)
...lather, rinse...repeat.
For the weights you start at 12 reps at a "reasonable" intensity, take a 1 min. break, 10 reps at a tougher intensity, take a break... etc. By your last set you are working those same muscles to "failure" - in other words pushing it so hard you can't quite finish the 6 reps you're going for. Then your last exercise is the same muscles but a different exercise. So as a simple example you might do:
12 bicep curls with 3 lbs dumbbells 1 min. rest 10 bicep curls with 5 lbs. 1 min. rest 8 bicepcurls with 7 lbs. 1 min. rest 6 (or however many you manage) bicep curls with max weight, say 8 lbs. 1 min. rest 12 bicep curls with 5 lbs. dumbbells NO REST 12 preacher curls [different 'type' of curl] with 10 lb. on the weight bench
I think it makes way more sense if ya have the book.. but that's a rough idea. The exercises in the book were a lot harder than what I could reasonably do with my muscle issues, but they were easy to adapt. I'm sure you could avoid any that strain your back and do the others.
My leg days are the "weakest" - rather than attempting the impossible such as squats w/weights, I just do "barely squats" then work my way "a little closer to a real squat" squats.. if that makes sense.
Something about that 12 week time frame is motivating too I think - it's short enough to feel like "not THAT long," but long enough to help ya make real progress and develop new habits. Anytime I tried for longer goals I'd kinda flail after a month, but 12 weeks sounded much more "do-able." (and then a 1 week break and another 12 weeks sounded "doable" too.. so pretty soon you're up to 25 weeks that didn't feel like it at all)!
I'd be glad to share more! Could be pages and pages here... but lemme know, I'd be glad to share my "no gym required" workouts and such.
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Some quick journaling... I had some coupons for free dinners at a local Mexican place that were going to expire next week, so decided to see if H wanted to go. He did, and we had a good dinner there. Conversation flowed pretty well. I realized I have a tendency to "fill the void" by rambling about anything I can think of - tonight I focused hard on instead asking H about his day then TRULY leaving a pause - he talked so much more!! And it was a much more two-sided convo. Nice for both of us, I think.
Supposed to go out with the girls for dinner/dancing tomorrow - but we have a nasty storm coming in, too, so we'll see. Hope it works out.
Saturday me, my good friend up the street, Mom, and H are going to see the "Walking with Dinosaurs" show. I thought it sounded cheesy til I saw the video, it looks WAY cool!! I mentioned it to H in mid-Dec and was surprised he would even commit to something "so" far ahead, but he did. We're all pretty excited for the show. Should be fun!!
Need to work on the rest of Jan. including another Nothern Ca. DB meetup.. please see the Just for Fun board if you're interested!!
Hugs to everyone.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
haha, I couldn't see the other one.