Okay, I have resisted starting another thread because I know that I was doing a little better when not posting and only coming her occasionally to check on my friends. However, I am feeling a little guilty about threadjacking.
Here is the latest in my situation.
Virtually nothing going on with H and me. Our divorce was final August 1st, H immediately moved in with OW as she had to spend the profit from the sale of her and her H's home before she had to pay capital gains tax. So she bought a house which my FIL checked out and has told people it his H's house. Not so, our friends have seen the contract...H's name not on it anywhere. He was upset with me because he did a credit check (maybe to get his name on the loan) and our mortgage and a home improvement account is still in his name, too. He ignores me and when we have to be together (S20 had surgery) he is friendly but guarded. He tried to get some stuff that wasn't listed on the divorce decree. I told him no because it says all personal property is divided. Some of the things I had told him we needed to agree on who got what but OW wouldn't let him meet with me to negotiate. His loss.
S32 will have surgery in the next week or so to remove the last of the cancerous tumors from his lymph node. Not sure but hoping that will be the last of his long treatment for testicular cancer. S20 is a junior in college and we have managed to make it through one semester without asking H for anything. He is going to have large student loans when he is finished.
S18 will graduate in June. He will be attending college in the fall the same place as his brother.
Ss greatly dislike OW and H blames me for that. S20 says they won't be together much longer as OW is not very intelligent.
Now on to New Year's resolutions. I resolve to improve my life so that I will be happy with or without H. Hopefully H will be sorry he isn't in my life anymore just as an added bonus.
Action steps to accomplish that:
1. Draw nearer to God. 2. Seek financial counseling and get finances under control. So that I can tithe. 3. Eat healthier and get more exercise. 4. Socialize more. 5. As soon as the government decides what highly qualified means for special ed teachers, get signed up for a masters program. As much as I was weary of taking classes, I was never as happy as I was while accomplishing my bachelors degree. Until H dropped the bomb a year before graduation.
I must shift the focus of my life to God and off H. I have to leave it to Him and stop picking it back up again. I want to be an example to my sons on how to include God in their lives.
Happy New Years to all my friends. I love all of you.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I do not know about your state, but in AZ, we can look up title info and home documents online!!! You can enter a person's last name or the street address and the forms will come up. It tells whose names the house is in, amongst other things.
You have made some good resolutions.
Happy New Year, everybody!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Your list looks great and of course it starts with what is most important, and with what will bring you the most joy. I pray your son recovers quickly and in His loving grace.
You have a great perspective on the rest of your list, and your life. H and the OW are really no longer a concern to you so use this year to put them out of your mind. They don't deserve your thoughts.
Not only are you going to show your sons what a wonderful life you can provide yourself, you will enjoy it without limits.
Thanks for the compliments. I really appreciate it. I didn't mention that I am still standing for my marriage and my sons know this but I have to shift the focus from that and let God take care of it because he is the one who has led me to believe this is His will.
Hope you have a wonderful New Year...Lord knows we all deserve it.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
A list hmmm......? For some reason this list is so much more important than the lists of New Years Past! LOL We gotta stick to this list.
It's good to put it down into words so we can come back and check them off when we accomplish some of it.
1. Organize and pack this house up so nothing but the bare essentials are left in it. 2. Neatly have everything stored in garage. 3. Put house on market 5. Keep house CLEAN every single day 6. Concentrate on doing my best at my job 7. Help my son MOVE OUT 8. Put everything up on Craigs List that has not been used in a year 9. Go through my clothes and donate those that I have not worn in 6 months. 10. Continue my weekly attendance to Mass + get more involved in Church Activities.
11,12,13, 14 15 and on
Go to Europe this Spring. Meet with Angelica, Saffie, Cinders, and SIMON!! If I enjoy it, stay for a few more months and Angelica and I will take a cruies down the Nile River. I just may become a permanent house guest of Angelica's for a few months whilst we go and culutualize me!!
Hugs
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Oh my, I am so boring after Jeanette. I want to keep working on getting more organized in my life in general, that means the house and paperwork and scheduling my time better..... Also the standard lose weight and get in better shape to have better health. Am I really that boring?
