Well, made it through Christmas without fights or "talks" about the end. Nothing real positive to report, either I guess. She did call to check on me a few times on my trip home which I guess is not a bad sign. Christmas was kind of like the old days in a way. W and I were the ones who took care of the parties, cleaning up and making sure everyone had what they needed.
She seemed a bit sad when I left, but I think she always is just a tiny bit. She has always managed to fight that feeling off, though :-) S3 cried when I left and said he wanted to come wiht me -- that always tears me up!
Our "temporary separation agreement" expires on Jan 1. There was no mention of it over the holidays and even though I signed it in Sep. I don't think she ever sent it to her L.
Should I ask about it? We have been working out the money issues as we go and as we look forward so I don't think she thinks she needs it for "protection" from my evil ways. But should I ask what is next?
I'm not sure. I guess deep down I want her to say it's time to work on us... but I realize it would probably just push her the rest of the way out the door.
All in all it was a pretty good DB time over the holidays. W had a fight with her SIL and Mom about watching the kids overnight on occassions. They know about OM and her M is not happy -- although she is of course her M and she will watch the kids for her.
We had dinner and breakfast out with the kids and did some shopping. I think we ALL had a good time, I was on my best DB behavior and had a lot of fun being around the kids. I hope that will give her reason to reflect on what is important in life...
No expectations but kind of a strange day so far. W has called twice instead of texting and went shopping and asked if I needed anything. I'm sure it doesn't mean anything but I guess it feels nice...
I'm not sure. I guess deep down I want her to say it's time to work on us... but I realize it would probably just push her the rest of the way out the door.
But, you know she's not going to say that. So, I don't think you bring it up unless there is some benefit for you. I think you just keep following it though legally perhaps you don't have to. Maybe that even helps her to build trust in you.
I think I did a good job as far as Christmas gifts for W. I bought her things that she needs for her new job. Even though I wish she was not taking this job while we are physically separated, I thought it best to be as supportive as possible. She did say thank you, which is not somehting I have heard too much of the last six months.
Well... W texted that the kids trip to visit me may not work now. What could possibly have come up that is more important? This wold be the second trip in as many months that has been cancelled if it happens... It's been planned for quite awhile, like the last...
