Well, I know B's wife had a hand in persuading my W to leave me. I've heard direct quotes of some of the things she's said about me (first-hand accounts).
She got pretty screwed in this deal, too - but she had turned a blind eye to the issues right in front of her (the EA between B and my W) and instead chose to make me a villian because she couldn't see what I and many others could.
In the interest of trying to be the best person I can, I'm going to have a brief talk with her, either via e-mail or a face-to-face thing to let her know how I feel and why it seems like I haven't been too pleased with her.
Just a thought -- she could've been snowed by your W.
Also, you paint a picture of someone who's lonely. Can't remember how you painted it, but goes to parties where B is, even if just to sit in a corner with a laptop. Something like that, right? If she turned a blind eye, could it be out of fear of being alone rather than a desire to effe you over?
Effe, what do I know, but just a few thoughts there.
I'm still shocked and offended by "cajun fries" in MN, though
You ever come to MD, I'll make you some real gumbo.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Well, you could be right about how she's doing. You're right about what I said - she's got varying levels of interaction at social events. I'm thinking of how to compose a decent message to her - which involves figuring out what I wanna say.
I'm burnt out on messages at the moment... I wrote a letter to W. I basically decided that, with D looking completely certain, I would tell her some of the things that I didn't before...basically, all of the "I feel" statements with as little judgment as possible about the last year of our relationship.
It turned out to be four and a half pages long. A bit crazy, but I thought that if I was going to go for a big "here's how I felt and in part why I was as I was, and where I'm going now" letter, I wanted to do when I was in an inspired mood. I didn't say anything mean, mind you.
It felt good to write that letter - and it even felt good to send it. The worst she can do is complain about me some, or refuse to have anything to do with me.
As for the idea of "cajun fries" - I'm well aware they're just our Midwest equivelant. ..hehe
My friend is from Maryland though, and she's made some chili that brought tears to my eyes.
heh. So I left a message for W the other day on her phone, asking her a question about where she got the really cool day planner thing she has - because I'm gonna need one for this spring.
She called me today, regarding something else, and I asked "did you get my message from the other day", she said "Yeah, I did... I've got a pretty long reply of my own I'm working on in Microsoft Word."
Me: "Um.. I.. I less meant the lenthy Facebook message, and the question about the day-planner."
totally not related to my situation, just caffiene withdrawl.. I got re-hooked on the stuff and now I'm going cold turkey.
Anyone wanna make $20? Here's the deal: I give you my address, and you hit me on the head repeatedly with a large hammer. 'cause that would suck less than this.
She's going to be giving me the paperwork she's finished, for one.
We're going to swap files from our computers for another - like, iTunes stuff, pictures, and all that stuff.
I'm going to play it cool, keep upbeat, and try and generally act like I'm fine.
I've done these meeting things a couple times, now, so I kind of have an idea of how I can act -- but it still makes me a little nervous going into them.
She didn't have the paperwork, but I didn't ask about it.
The file exchange went fine, so I got everything I wanted and she's got what she wanted.
I'm a bit emotionally drained from the interaction. Keeping a smile/pleasantly neutral expression on your face when you feel a whirlwind of emotions (love, frustration, disgust, longing) about the person you're looking at is tough.
