I got, "some people just aren't meant to be together" Yup, it's all in the stars or something! I guess it took her 17 years to be sure we didn't belong together. She should get a medal for hanging in there so long! What a saint!
I've heard, "IT'S ABOUT ME NOW"...."I'm so sick of taking care of everything and everybody"
This was about 1 year after his father died who had been ill for about 11 months. So while he was off taking care of his dad, I took care of eveything else, but I"M the one who is to blame for all that is wrong in his life!!??
Me:45 H: 45 M: 14 yrs T: 16 yrs D's: 7/11 Bomb: June '07 Moved out: Sept.'07
I also liked "you act as though you don't trust me!" Oh gee, maybe cuz you broke the biggest vow of your life, why would that impact on my ability to trust you? In regards to the A, I got the infamous, "nobody planned for this to happen, you know" and I remember my response was "Well, I guess an alien must have sucked your brain right out of your head and you had absolutely no choice but to cheat on me, is that what happened?" Wow, they've got a million of 'em!
We had a thread going a while ago entitled "the stupidest thing your S ever said about the A" and I cut and pasted my favourites. When I was feeling down I'd read them over, here's some of the goodies, enjoy!:
"OW is not a drug dealer, she just sells drugs to people"
"Yes, she's stupid but that just makes me feel smarter"
"I told you she was stupid and ugly because I thought that is what you wanted to hear"
"He reminded me so much of you, I guess that's why I was so attracted to him"
"I just want to break up for a while then hopefully get back together"
"It's not what you think, it was "friendship sex"
"Well, you can date too...AFTER we're divorced"
"She (OW) is a godly woman"
"Can the three of us still go to Disneyland as a family after the divorce?"
"When you cry it makes me want to hit you. It's not like I'm TRYING to hurt you!"
"I've never liked sex and never will, you know that. I've only had sex with OM 12 times in the last two and a half weeks"
"I wish you could meet someone and have what i have"
"I'm not leaving you for another man! I'm leaving for ME"
"I don't like the word AFFAIR, it makes it sound so cheap" (and yes that's the one my W said to me!)
"God will forgive me for leaving you because he knows OM is my soulmate"
"she's (OW) my counsellor, helping me through my marriage problems"
"you deserve someone who will treat you much better than I do"
"I feel like I'm hurting you too much so I need to leave"
"I did it as much for your sake as I did for mine"
and my favourite "OM prayed about it, and God's OK with what we're doing"
"I'm not leaving you for another man! I'm leaving for ME"
Hah! Heard this one quite a few times. Just last week she told me that she ended the relationship with OM to prove to herself that it wasn't him but instead, her. Funny enough, she didn't end it, he did. Funnier still, we had no discernible issues before him (she has said this MANY times).
Another one I got from her after OM made contact after his second disappearance:
"I'm not lying about this anymore. Lying is what you do about a fling, an affair, not a real relationship."
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Me: 39/W: 37 D13-D11-S8 M/T 14/20
EA confirmed: 9/13/07 D-Bomb: 9/19/07 OM Gone since 12/18/07 W wants to fix marriage: 3/16/07
"We never spent any time together" (yeah, because you were on the computer for 5 hours every night)
So true!! My D13 mentioned to me about a month into our sitch that "Mommy needs to stop playing her game so much. You two lost your interaction, you need to go on a date." I kid you not, these were her words.
Amazing that a 13 year old could see that. Our counselor said "Wow, how intuitive."
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Me: 39/W: 37 D13-D11-S8 M/T 14/20
EA confirmed: 9/13/07 D-Bomb: 9/19/07 OM Gone since 12/18/07 W wants to fix marriage: 3/16/07
