H picked me up at the airport alone,here is the conversation
H hi
E hi
Cheek kisses ( that set the mood right there, when i left it was lip kisses maybe because I had't called him?????)
H are you ever dark...you had good weather?( checking me out )
E yea in the 80"s
H did you have a good time?
E yes, yes I did
H I was going to, ask S to come but he was hung over
E yea I know how that feels... so am I (had a party last night before I left, met some realy nice people...cute too!I know , I know didn't do anything)
H Drink by yourself?( checking me out again)
E no
H drink with your dad?
E no had a party for me before I left (total 180 for me again, I do not drink and IF I do maybe 1 or 2 glasses of wine that's it)
H & E small talk while waiting for luggage
H did you spend all that money on you for christmas?
E yes, you bought me this outfit I will wrap the other stuff and put it under the tree
H nods
E Are we still "done"
H yes , what would make you think otherwise?
E Just asking.... so you're leaving after Christmas?
H yea
E I have some paper work from the lawyer I want you to sit with me to fill it out.
H nods
E you will have to continue to pay the bills until the money issue is settled
H nods
E I want you to remember that whatever happens you can talk to me
H no reaction???
H did you buy any booze?
E no
H do you want to get some at the border?
E no, not for me Pause
E oh yea I have to get some corona
H for who?
I looked at him like it "why?" he waved his hand like "never mind" I don't ask him questions about where, who, when So I think(hope) he should be the same with me It is for my girlfriends husband but...
Very quiet in the car for awhile... H puts his hands up by his mouth, H does this when a lot on his mind, thinking. I turned up the radio
H why don't you get some blue?
E because it's not my money
H hands by mouth for the rest of the way home.....a very long quiet ride
oh by the way he carried my luggage, came in and told me the liscnce plate # to cross the border, carried out the ber and moves th car next to the building for me to get in.
Got home and he had made stuffed peppers and chicken for lunch.
He is finally starting to cook again. Something tha went by the wayside in MLC
I told him it was very good and that it was nice to see him enjoying his cooking again.
Gave him a hug and he one handed hugged back
Right now he is downstairs and I am up
Please critique my actions give it to me straight on...please E
Last edited by enlightenlife; 12/23/0709:05 PM.
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
H are you ever dark...you had good weather?( checking me out )
E yea in the 80"s
H did you have a good time?
E yes, yes I did
H I was going to, ask S to come but he was hung over
E yea I know how that feels... so am I
H Drink by yourself?( checking me out again)
E no
H drink with your dad?
E no had a party for me before I left (total 180 for me again)
Great- good DBing and GALing with the party. Sounds like H was interested in what you were doing and wondering....
Originally Posted By: enlightenlife
E Are we still "done"
H yes , what would make you think otherwise?
E Just asking.... so you're leaving after Christmas?
He was checking you out ;), but this set of questions seem a bit like pressure. I know you have paperwork to sort out which makes things tricky though....Overall the interaction sounds positive to me. Did you initiate the hug at the end, or H?
L.
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
LOL...I was waiting for your answer and was going to say as I read of the encounter, nothing jumped out at me one way or the other. Pretty much status quo. You didn't hurt anything. I didn't get any impatience from your description.
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I guess I wanted him to let me know what's what?
And he did. No change. He'll have to tell you if there is and it won't happen when you ask.
Actually, what you did was remind me of a road trip which my buddies and I took in college. We took off from Pennsylvania (Philly area) to visit a buddy in upstate NY. We finished off a case of Molson Ale (better than the golden) and stopped to pick up some Labatt's to get us the rest of the way there.
From here on, just let it go. Go with the flow. Just be cool and calm.
I used to ask things like this. I don't anymore. I asked if he wanted a divorce. He said yes, I filed. After a while I stopped asking what he wanted. I just told him what I wanted. I don't care what he thinks at this point. I will do what works for me. Right now taking my time works for me.
My H is still lying about most stuff. He doesn't realize I know. i stopped telling him. so my only advise. It is over when you say it is, or can't fight anymore legally.
You know, he sounds like he is doing stuff that may lead out of the tunnel. Of course, not tomorrow. He picked you up, checked you out, talked about you, and was cooking. He may leave after Christmas, but he may be back! Obviously, that's not a guarantee, but there is something there. I'd say more of what you've been doing is in order.
Did you say he bought beer for his girlfriend's husband? Does that sort of make the husband the girlfriend's pimp? Just asking, how does that work? (Maybe you wrote about it earlier, but I missed it!)
