The New Adventures of Supermom...Part 3

[JennyF]

H came this morning and we both got D out of bed together. She opened her stocking her bed and then straight to the tree. She had fun and liked her presents.
H got me a 1/2 hour massage from a spa (from the kids)...I don't mean to sound ungrateful...but you could spring for the whole friggin' hour??? I did give birth to your child 9 weeks ago!!

Then his Mom & sisters came over. It was nice to see them but I got emotional a few times (I did my best to hide it from H).
They left and H stayed to watch the baby while I showered. When he left, I said...,"say hi to your Grandma and everyone for me today". He said, "I'm not going there until tomorrow with D".
You know what that means? He's going to spend the day with HER! OMG...he may as well have hit me over the head with a 2X4. Not that I'm surprised...just incredibly hurt. SO SO HURT.

Well...more family is on the way...thank God...
J~

[Startingover2]

Oh Jenny.....why does it seem that I am watching for the day to be over and done. I am exhausted.

Does your H's family know what is going on? I bet it was a bit uncomfortable for your H. Good.

Hope you have a good rest of the day. I just got back home from my moms and I need a rest. 7 months pregnant and I am feeling it.

[lizzy]

Sorry about him spending the day with the OW Jenny. You did have S and D w/ you though, and that sounds like a better deal to me. I hope you felt blessed today and had as Merry of a Christmas as possible.

[need2change]

You know what that means? He's going to spend the day with HER! OMG...he may as well have hit me over the head with a 2X4. Not that I'm surprised...just incredibly hurt. SO SO HURT.

I can completely understand your feelings at this point. The one thing that helps me (just a suggestion) is if I do think about how awkward any conversation your H is having. I can't imagine how odd that must be to know you should be one place and yet you are somewhere else probably having a bad time.

[bhopeful]

Hey Jenny. I'm sorry to hear your day didn't go so well. Here's hoping that tomorrow will be better...

[JennyF]

The one thing that helps me (just a suggestion) is if I do think about how awkward any conversation your H is having. I can't imagine how odd that must be to know you should be one place and yet you are somewhere else probably having a bad time.

needtochange...I thought of this too...I can't imagine that deep down my H doesn't realize he SHOULD be here. As far as he is concerned it is over and this is his new and improved reality...nice, Christmas with only a few hours with your kids. Great choice!
Anyway, later in the day it hit me...If H is meeting any of her family it will be hilarious what they will think! My H is 10 yrs younger than OW (H-29 OW-39)she has 3 kids ages 9 and up (2 from her 1st marriage and one from the second...that's right...she's twice D'd!).
All I can picture is my H going on about how he has a 3 yr old D and a 9 WEEK old S to all of her family. "What a gem" they'll think. Also, H is on a high horse right now and acting like an arrogant, older than he is, know it all guy who thinks he's all that and a bag of chips....(this is the complete opposite of the H I married by the way), but I keep imagining him being this person in front of these people and how sad it would be just how stupid he would feel if had an sense right now! Funny.

I hope he is just as uncomfortable at his Grandma's tomorrow when he has to face his family.

Anyway...I'm glad today is over. It had it's ups as well as it's downs.

Today I am grateful for:
- The joy in my D's face as she opened and played with her presents. I had such fun with her today!
- My family who were here for Christmas dinner.
- The wonderful and generous presents I recieved.
- That I made it through the day. Cried a few times...thought I might crawl into a closet and stay there until it was over, but I didn't. And I had fun. I'm thankful for that.

I hope everyone else managed to have a good day too. And yes B...here's hoping tomorrow is better. 7 more sleeps 'til a brand new year!
J~

[Startingover2]

I can almost guarantee that your H and OW are not completely honest with her family. How could they? When you lay out all of the facts it sounds horrible and that would definately put a dent in the fantasy that H and OW have.

I like how you put what you are thankful for.

[JennyF]

I found out this morning that H may not have been with OW yesterday. My best friend told me that he was looking for a place to meet up with people yesterday and H asked his best friend what he was doing.
(History...we have a very close group of friends. H's best friend is the brother of my best friend and his W...it's how we met.)
H's BF asked his brother if H could come by there house last night as their whole family was there. My BF said he wasn't welcome there. WOW! This made me feel good. It's weird that H doesn't comprehend how uncomfortable his presence will make people...or even that HE wouldn't be uncomfortable. Must be that oblivious fog he's walking around in.

So now I'm wondering where the heck he was?? He didn't go to his Grandparent's and there wouldn't have been anyhwere else for him to go. I don't get it! Well, I feel better just knowing that there is a chance that he wasn't with her.
Maybe what everyone else has been posting is right, that they are probably far more lonely and sad than we are.

D has gone with him today to his Grandparent's and is keeping her over night. I miss her already :-(

My brother, his wife and my nephew are on their way here now for a few days and my Dad and step mom will be visiting tomorrow. D will be back in the morning so the next few days should be fun. I'm looking forward to it.

OH, H mentioned that he might take D to the park to go skating with her new skates on Saturday. I said that I would like to go too so I could see her skate for the first time. He said it would even be a good idea to get S out for some fresh air. It will be weird for us to be going out together...but I really want to see her skate for the first time.
I've said it a thousand times...man would I love to get inside his head!!
Well that's it for now...I may not get to post for a few days as the room with the computer is also the room where my brother and his wife will be sleeping.
Hope everyone is enjoying their holidays.
J~

[sgctxok]

Things aren't always great with OW. Maybe he'll realize a few things while spending time with your D.


Hope you're having a great day!!!

[blindsided1]

Hope you are doing well and having a great time with your family. Just checking in on you. I know you have family staying with you. Post when you get a chance and let us know how things went.