I just read this whole thread and wow...I see I am not alone! I endured working next to my H on my birthday in September and even tho the other employees wished me a happy birthday, he said nothing to me about it. He didn't want to see me on Thanksgiving and when I asked him about Christmas, he said no, he didn't want any "problems". My heart has been aching for the husband I once knew. One of the pics he posted on a singles site is one that I took on our romantic trip to Maui! It bites sooo much! How can my HUSBAND do this? I took my vows seriously! I helped him build his business from dust! I feel horrid because he's running our finances into the ground and am FORCED to file a legal separation before it's all over!
To the poster who wrote about looking at the body and wanting the man who loved me to return...WOW! An epiphany for me too!
For years, he said this marriage was for life. I am his fifth wife. He loved the Lord. He doesn't seem to love Him anymore, even saying that PRIDE is keeping him from working on our marriage. PRIDE! Love has no room for that!
{{{ladybug}}} I feel your pain and am soooo sorry you have to be in this boat.
M: ten years BS23, BS17 Step-SS20, SS16, SS14 Separated: August 07
no body wants a D msL, it is but the last resort we have, I might be heading that way, H wants to file for legal S. About filing, do it because you think it is the right thing to do, not to expect him to react, he might and you might feel sorry you did, only do it for your own protection.
Hugs))))) my prayrs your way too
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I don't feel like I have a choice after this weekend. How am I supposed to stick around trying to work on our marriage while he is out with other women? He tried talking to me tonight telling me that he really wants our marriage to work, I said, "then end your friendship with D." He said he's a grown man and can decide who he wants to be friends with. He ended it with "go f*** yourself and have a nice day."
I sent this email:
J, Thank you for telling me to f*** myself before you hung up on me. Really, I know that I don't deserve to be spoken to that way, but I know I will never be spoken to that way again.
Please file on Monday like you said you would. I will email you the name and number of my attorney, and I wish for all contact to go through her for right now.
I hope everything works out for you and D as you have chosen your friendship with her over our marriage.
Regards, Ms Ladybug
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Emily, I was trying to apologize and help you understand why I'm frustrated. You insist upon talking over me and arguing with me. All I want is to be able to talk about our problems but you won't allow it. I'm sorry for swearing. I'm sorry for a lot of things, but I can't even apologize without you busting my balls. If you could listen for a few minutes and make an honest attempt at discussing things with me without the insults, contradictions and arguments things would be a whole lot better. You said you want our marriage to win but you're still arguing for yourself. I just want to resolve the problems. I haven't chosen anything over you. Even if you still want a divorce I would like to be able to talk like adults without all the lawyer BS. And I'm still going to need to talk to you about the kids. Please stop sending me text messages calling me names. Please start discussing things with me like an adult.
By the way I drove past his house this morning on my way to church about 7:30 and his car wasn't there...meaning he didn't come home last night...
What do you think?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Both of you have the same prob I have games, games, games, and most of the games hurt. Good luck to both of you it has to get better for all of us. Tonight I will say a good prayer for us. I'm here for all of you.
Me 38 WAW 29 D 4 Married 9 Together 11 Bomb June 07 Separated Jan 08 Reconciled May 08 awesome, happy, and blessed
Thanks for the prayers. I will say one too. He called again to apoligize again, yet admitted to being with ex-gf again last night.
So, last night he said it was wrong to hang out with her and apologized, then within 20min of that, got mad at me, and went to her place all night again. Then, called to apoligize...yet blame me for all of it.
Truly mind boggling. He still insists she's a friend, and nothing happened. I want with every cell in me to believe him, but can I???
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
no, I dont' think you should believe 100% of what he says, btdt, he seems to be fooling himself (and tryign to fool u) into thinking he's not really involved with that woman, but, come on! spendign so much time with one person like that has to be at least an EA.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
