Locked my last thread, here is the link to the last page of it Continuing Saga ...
Well after 20 and 10 minute pleasant and enjoyable conversations on consecutive days, I picked up 5D for church at WAW's house. 30 degrees out and she just reached out got 5D's church clothes and closed the door. 10 minutes later 5D is ready. We talked briefly about 5D's hairbow and WAW said 5D's new dress was to small. I said something like the other dress I got this size was ok but you are right.
Dropped 5D off at 11:45 after church...about the same thing. Waited 10 minutes outside for 5D to change out of church clothes. WAW and I talked about cat drooling when I got 5D's clothes and then I got kisses and hugs from 5D followed by the good bye and the door closing.
I suppose I shouldn't have hoped or expected to go inside but durn it was cold and we did have some tiny steps in the right direction with our prior days conversations. I guess it is to soon for anything substantial to happen. So, continue being dim. Continue to leave her alone, continue to not bring up us, continue to GAL, and continue to be a great Dad for 5D. Our dating anniversary is the 19th, wedding the 21st, and I will not see WAW until she brings 5D at 8pm on the 24th. I can hope that one of these days will bring back a spark. Regardless, lawyers are off for awhile, so nothing substantial legally will happen for at least 3 weeks.
Talked to a friend of mine today that my WAW ran into yesterday. This person is not a friend of my WAW just someone she knows from years past where we use to live. I found it really interesting my wife told her, "we are not together right now." This is a very different from the adamant we are getting a D that she was telling everyone.
Who knows. Regardless, had a good day, watched football, did laundry, prepared for next four days with 5D...can't wait. Gingerbread house going up tomorrow evening....
My kids favorite thing each year is to put together the gingerbread houses. Then my W eats them. It's sort of a joke in my house because my W is tiny, but loves gingerbread.
It is interesting what your W said, but I wouldn't read anything into it. WAW's say the darnest things.
Not reading much into it. The 20 and 10 minute very pleasant and enjoyable conversations on consecutive days must be some sort of positive.
Called WAW last night to find out if I needed to take some time off work to take dose of medicine to 5D at school. She said no. But then got to talk to 5D. It was great. She said she misses me, loves me more than the whole world, wished she was at my house, excited about what we were going the next 4 days, told me all about the movie she was watching...all the while she was at the in-laws with WAW. They certainly heard. Another bonus was that I told wife I wouldn't take 5D medicine and I was almost in town and have to get off the phone now to get laundry. In short, I got off the phone first...finally.
Regardless, I am going to continue to leave her alone with the exception of 5D. We started dating on the 19th, married on the 21st, and I will see WAW x-mas eve at 8:00pm. If anything is going to change soon it will be during this time. Otherwise, my GAL plans are working nicely.
Last Wednesday, lawyer said I needed to respond to WAW's paper. My lawyer said they would do something if not. Well, looks like I am unintentional calling her bluff because they did not fax stuff to her attorney. In fact, my attorney is out of the frazzlin' state until after new year's. Might be a more interesting week than anticipated.
Well no news is good news. No lawyer contact. No WAW contact... Unintentionally calling her bluff is almost comical.
I did learn what made me unhappy for years. I needed to come to understand this for my future whether with or without WAW. In short, it has everything to do with being able to "take care of" my family. Such as having an exceptable home, being able to take family on vacation, take wife to weekend getaway, or just a candlelight dinner. These things make me feel like a provider, validate me, and make me feel really good as husband and father. The inability to give her these things because of where we lived or money really brought me down. Funny how that it is what we both want and sux I can't tell her. I thought about a letter or email or maybe if we have a good phone conversation I could get it in if she opens a door. But I know I just need to wait and let her bring us up. I think it would really mean something to her if I could tell her, but she'd have to be listening. I feel like that I will get a chance soon...Sorry for the short journal...started to write the letter version but ...
My brief post on unhappiness above does not really describe the past well. It's too vague. Still does not matter. 4 months ago I could have told her, now I must wait for her to let me tell her.
Looking forward to this evening gingerbread house going up tonight after postpone from yesterday...and going to store to get stuff to decorate x-mas stockings for 5D and I.
Well, it appears she contacted lawyer yesterday briefly. This could be to get me served...even though she cannot win a fault case. We started dating today and got married Friday. If those days mean anything to her then bigger D papers would wait until after New Year's. Or it could be she called to hold off on things, she did say she would discuss points in our no-fault version at a later date...Or she could've called for a ham sandwich...who knows.
5D and I put gingerbread house together last night. Going to decorate our stockings tonight and do some x-mas shopping. Regardless, 5D and I are going to have a good x-mas.
Gingerbread big hit..she loved doing it. And she is real excited about decorating our x-mas stockings, x-mas shopping, and wrapping gifts.
Of course, no WAW contact but her calling lawyer probably not a positive unless she called to say hold the fault papers. I know she cannot win...heck her attorney even knows it. Still don't want them. It's just a big sign that SHE does not want me. I suppose that is it, winning in court is not going to win her.
