I love that D5 has a secret...that is so cute. And I think what you said to her about her not getting you a present was perfect. And I agree, homemade stuff and time together is all I want for Christmas too.
Good choice for the present, very thoughtful of you. And soooo glad you didn't do the ring. Barf.
Everyone needs to validated and reminded they ARE a good person despite what their very own spouse tells them.
So, what kind of changes are you planning for the new year?
1. Quit smoking (again) 2. Work out 3 times a week (treadmill for Xmas!!) 3. Get finances on track
If I can do those 3 things, I will be happy.
I wanted to do a ring with both the girls birth stones.. glad I didn't go that route. I think the heart is simple and sweet. She can easily wear it and say "it's from the girls". I'm sure everyone can figure out who bought it, but it was from the girls.
So how about you? What are your changes (if any) for the New Year?
Figured I'd take you up on your offer for advice. First off, remind me what PMA (I think that's the acronym) and GALs mean please.
2ndly, here's my question....my husband and I are back together and have been, without him being in an A, since Nov 2005. I sometimes wonder had the H of the OW not called me and notified me of the A, if my H would have quit calling the OW. He states that he loves me and all and has made many great strides in trying to show me he loves me, however, I sometimes wonder if he still chooses me - period.
The thing I keep trying to remind myself is that if he didn't want to be with me, he wouldn't. However, sometimes, I'm not so certain it's his 'preferred' place to be and that bothers me sometimes.
I guess I'm overthinking. For instance, I'm away on business this week and just left last night. He did come to the airport after hunting ducks all day, to see me off. I texted him when I got here and sent a couple other funny messages, however, he never texted me or called me this morning and when I called him on the way to where I'm working today, he stated he didn't want to wake me up and that that was why he hadn't called me.
I guess my point is, do guys have some need to be ignored or not contacted by their wives to make them think about us? Or, is this just specific to my H? When I called him after I was almost done working today and talked to him on my way to the hotel, he listens and can repeat what I say, but offers no feedback or interaction. However, he'll go on and on about his hunting and what he's going to do and I make certain I stay interested and offer feedback.
I just feel like us being sincerely interested in one another seems so one-sided.
What do you think? Again, hope you don't mind my pestering you.
BTW - GREAT TO HEAR YOU SOUNDING SO POSITIVE! Definitely need to meet other W, even for just friendships as it makes a MOUND of difference when you realize you are someone worth the time.
"GET BUSY LIVING OR GET BUSY DYING...."
And... for your viewing pleasure.... http://www.laughyourway.com/video/ Best video I've seen that helps define the difference between Men's & Women's thoughts.
Oh yeah... I'm already pushing the separation agreement. I'll let that settle and then see how things are going.
Good...you're looking out for you and your girls. I don't know what the law is like in Kentucky. In California, once you have a separation agreement in place, all you have to do is amend it and wait 6 months for final dissolution if that is what you want. That will give you a lot more control over your own destiny.
One question I have: What is the custody arrangement that you have, or hope to have? The reason I ask is that you seem to be the stable, consistent parent in your situation. I'm not suggesting that you try to exclude your W at all, but I think 50/50 (at least) would be appropriate.
Stumped... I guess I'd say be happy he's with you for now and focus on that!!
As for the being left alone thing, that is a guy thing. Not sure why we do that, but there are times where we would honestly prefer to be left alone.
I'd take him at face value.. if he said he didn't want to bother you, that's probably true.
If you want him to interact, ask him what he thinks.. ask for suggestions. Again, being simple minded species, he may not think you are asking for his input. I know I sometimes struggle with wanting to "fix" things when my W talks, but I also know sometimes she just wants me to listen and be sympathetic. Maybe you are getting more of the latter?
Just some thoughts.. The big thing I would recommend would be to talk to him and let him know how you feel. You may be surprised at what he's thinking/feeling.
Guys.. am I way off here?
Nut.. thanks!! I think we are in the same boat as far as converting the D. We do have 50/50 custody. She didn't want that at first, but it's what the court would've ordered anyway.
Dropped D's off and asked wife where to call the D's. I told her I would be out of town till late, and she automatically assumed I had a date. She was very, very bummed by this. She sadly told me I looked good.. when I left, I was in a great mood and she did a pretend kiss towards me. I responded with the same.
Had a good time last night.. met another little cutie (probably waaay to young) and talked for a bit. Ran into a gal that gave me her number but I didn't call. That was ugly for a minute.
All in all, not a bad night.. could've been better.. could've been worse.
Not sure what I'm doing tonight. I should straighten up the house.. the D tornado has left a bunch of carnage. I should also do some Xmas shopping. I would like to go out.. no buddies available this evening though.
And I think what you said to her about her not getting you a present was perfect. And I agree, homemade stuff and time together is all I want for Christmas too. 
