Sorry... watched a movie with some friends last night and then watched an episode of Family Guy.. that show is soo wrong for many reasons, but Quagmire is by far my favorite character!!
So I'm guessing the mods took a vacation and did a clean sweep when they came back!! I noticed that mine, lwb's and Marks' threads all locked!!
So.. called D's ~6 last night. W had her hands full.. D5 was being mean. W has yet to figure out that as she changes houses, she tests the parent to see what her boundaries are. W's response is to call me and complain about what D5 is saying/doing. Parent up woman!!
I've decided to take my girls on a trip for summer vacation next year.. not sure where, but maybe Disney, maybe Florida, Cali.. who knows. I pinged W to see what our summer parenting schedule was going to be. 1 or 2 weeks.. any idea on dates. I told her I was looking to plan a vacation. I'm sure that hit her. She said she would call me later, but I told her I wouldn't be available.. either email or leave a VM. Sure enough, she called.. let it roll. She left a testy VM about D5's Excema medicine (forgot to put it in the bag). She called again an hour later but didn't leave a VM.
I texted her back a little after midnight (when I got home) and said I'd drop the medicine off at school.
I also had asked her about seeing Santa on sunday.. needed to know what time as I will be overnighting at my parents Saturday night. I didn't tell W that, just that I was working on "Scheduling"
"I hear the train a comin.. it's rollin round the bend..."
Haha... Jar I remember my first vacation alone with D. Had a blast! We went on a road trip and talked the whole way, really created a lot of good memories.
There were times I got sad too though, I remember driving and thinking what W would be doing if she was with me etc.
Sometimes I just wish I could forget about that woman and erase all memories of her.
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Probably not the best thing to do, but what I try to do when I feel down about W, is to think about some of the negative things from our past.. and also what she's doing now.
It's like a turbo kick in the pants.
The problem I have is when things happen in real time.. like this weekend.. knocked me down, but I like that I've recovered more quickly.
Vacation, now that's going to be a tough one. Every year for the past 7 we have taken the 3 kids along with BIL and his GF (W's best friend) down to NC. There are no plans to change that this year although all of the adults know that there will more than likely be 1 less going.
Looking forward to the vacation but not looking forward to the many many triggers that will be faced by all of us.
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EA confirmed: 9/13/07 D-Bomb: 9/19/07 OM Gone since 12/18/07 W wants to fix marriage: 3/16/07
Xmas will be hard.. especially the closer and closer it gets.
Do I get her anything.. if so, what? At this point.. nothing. What will OM get her? I'm sure it will be nice and thoughtful and yucky.
Our Anniversary is on the 28th.. do I get her anything? At this point.. no. Maybe a card thanking her for our D's.
Luckily, we really have no "set" vacation that we used to do. Other than Cancun and Aruba which was usually us and her parents. I think there will always be triggers. We love(d) them for Pete's sake. (That's got to be an uncomfortable saying for someone I know!)
A week ago I was pretty sure she'd be out of the house by Christmas so hadn't put much thought into it. Of course 2 weeks ago I thought we were on our way back from the edge so I had some pretty good ideas as far as gifts go.
I can't imagine not getting my W something but I'm not going nuts with it. I may ask her to get her own so that she has something to open that morning instead of having the kids wonder why mommmy didn't get anything from Santa.
I'll tell you why mommy didn't get something from Santa...
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Me: 39/W: 37 D13-D11-S8 M/T 14/20
EA confirmed: 9/13/07 D-Bomb: 9/19/07 OM Gone since 12/18/07 W wants to fix marriage: 3/16/07
I'll tell you why mommy didn't get something from Santa...
That's funny. Unfortunately my mom knows what's going on. She said.....I don't think your H is on Santa's list this year.....at least not the nice list!
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
HA!! Maybe I'll get my W a blindfold to go along with her handcuffs!!
So.. W just called.. she's pissed at me. She can't believe I'm already looking to plan a vacation.. she says I'm trying to buy my daughters off.. she's mad that I can afford to do this stuff while she can't.. she's also mad that I'm trying to be more organized.. this is a change I've been DYING to make.
Angry.. Angry woman.
I think the corner she has painted herself in is getting smaller and smaller.
Too bad really. I'm not trying to be vindictive.. I'm just demonstrating that I'm prepared to move on without her.
Also discussed the Ohio State game... she tried to sweep a leg, but I had it covered. She was trying to use the "D5 can't miss school" excuse.. I had said in my email that I would have D5 at Kindergarten the next day.. I'd even bring D3 by when we picked D5 up to say hi.
