Well, I guess my last thread locked, what's up w/ that?
Anyway, figured you guys would appreciate this: the girls & I @ work are taking a "field trip" today at lunch to the Love Shack. At least that's what I'm calling it, don't really know what the name of the place is. Of course, I've been to one of these stores before, however, never back in the sticks in podunk little town TX, so it may be interesting to see what I can find
The boys and I are taking a trip this weekend - driving to San Antonio to see family. H's aunt & her 3 girls are coming into town to surprise H's mom. They live in Iowa, so we don't see them often. It's kind of "different" in the fact that H's aunt is my age and the 3 girls are our boys' ages, so H's cousins are his children's ages. Anyway, H's sister is going to take me to get my belly button pierced (again). I've had it done 2 times before, but had to take it out once when I went through basic & then when I was pregnant the first time. I'm finally thin enough again to want to get it done again. Wasn't real sure about the tatoo parlors here in our town, so I'm going to get it done while we're there.
Went shopping last night & got "the outfit" that I will wear when we pick H up from the airport NEXT WEEKEND Cute little bright pink sweater & black velvety pants w/ some ankle boots. I actually had to go to the junior's section to find pants that fit!!! Wow -- of course, Mom played the Devil's Advocate and said don't get rid of all of your old clothes that don't fit anymore just in case you gain weight.
So, all in all, I'm feeling pretty good. My drive is in overdrive just thinking about H coming home I told him I hope he's ready for touchy/feely which is a 180 for me b/c I'm going to want to be touching him constantly to make sure he's really here!
I actually had been not even interested (physically for some reason) in "helping myself out" a bit for awhile now. I'm glad to report that I've been able to jump start that again too so that my body doesn't go into shock once H comes home. I've found that if I have a really long dry spell, sometimes it's hard to "get back into it," so I'm just trying to dispell w/ that before he even gets home. Ok, TMI, nah, not here
So, opinions please -- I'm thinking about getting H a new wedding ring for Christmas. I'm not going to give it to him on Christmas though, I'm going to wait & put it on the pillow at the B&B when we go for our little weekend get away. What do you guys think?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
The other thing that I have brought up to H and he has been very receptive is to renew our vows once he comes home from deployment for good in May. We got married in Monterey CA on a cliffside and I would like to have our pastor marry us *again* in our church. He said that he does want to do this, but I'm not going to bring it up again until he's home for good. I don't want some big "to do" or anything. Just family at the church. I think it would be a good *start over* for us.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
RHW, my late husband was a medivac helicopter pilot in Viet Nam. When he came home in 1967 after a year, he told me what it was like for him. He said it was so weird to think that one day he was being shot at and the next day he was on an airplane drinking all the ice cold milk they would give him and the next day he was home where everything was the same... houses, trees, church, stores, sidewalks... he said it was hard shifting gears in his head.
His wife had arranged a huge welcome for him at the airport, she had bought all new furniture for the house, and (most importantly) she had given birth to their second child while he was away. In those days there was no email, no cell phones-- they exchanged audio tapes, and talked on the phone once during that year.
He said although he appreciated the fuss, he wished the welcome could have been a little bit more low key. He was having a hard time taking everything in. And he couldn't help but think of his buddies who were NOT coming home and who would not get this kind of welcome. He was full of conflicting emotions. He didn't share any of them with her, he just smiled and went along with everything.
All I'm saying is, "take it easy." Leave plenty of time for just sitting and decompressing. The most important thing for him is to be HOME. I'm not saying don't make it special... just don't hit him with everything at once. Be watchful (in a subtle way) for mood changes, and above all, if they happen, DON'T take them personally.
I'll just say that H is not in Iraq and leave it at that.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Yeah, I know, but I guess my point was that he's just somewhere doing his job, but not under heavy duty war stress and he is just as excited to get home as I am. We're all going to have adjustments, though, I know that.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I'd have thought that Lil's h's "stuff" would have been much more from the combat and related trauma, than the separation. But anyway... lil: have you ever read "Chickenhawk"? a great narrative, written by a Vietnam helicopter pilot.
That's what I was getting at. I don't think my H is in any way *traumatized* from his deployment as he would be if he were in Iraq and his homecoming is going to be a bit different than if he were in that kind of situation right now.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
