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#1278658 11/29/07 01:47 PM
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My contribution to the music theme:

And the beat goes on
Just like my love everlasting
And the beat goes on
Still moving strong on and on

Do you ever wonder
That to win, somebody's got to lose
I might as well get over the blues
Just like fishing in the ocean
There'll always be someone new
You did me wrong 'cos I've been through stormy weather.

And the beat goes on
Just like my love everlasting
And the beat goes on you'd better believe it
Still moving strong on and on

Don't stop for nobody
This time I'll keep my feet on solid ground
Now I understand myself when I'm down
Like the sweet sound of hip music
There'll always be something new
To keep the tables turning
Hey this super song
There'll never be an ending

And the beat goes on
Just like my love everlasting
And the beat goes on
Still moving strong on and on (the beat goes on) on, ...

Get down playing that fee, sure the beat is real
The beat goes on

And the beat goes on, ...


So.. dropped D's off this morning. W looked good.. barely looked at her. I had a conference call at 0830, and true to form, she kept me as long as possible (kissing D's.. messing with their hair etc)

Oh well.. Another day another dollar!!



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It finally locked. \:\)

Good job with detachment this morning. She was trying to keep you there, for attention...for something..who knows. Too bad we don't get the alien handbook.

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Jar,

Just wanted to comment on one thing from your other thread. I think you did the right thing with notifying her when your daughter got hurt. There is no need to bring children into the war. A child deserves both parents there. I know as a mom I would be very upset if my ex husband wouldn't have notified me. My kid's are older now and he hardly seen them growing up per his selfishness. But still I would have been upset if he didn't tell me. In fact believe me I would have used it legally against him. That's how protective I am of my kiddo's.

So I think you did the right thing. : ) I also really liked the e-mail you wrote. I think she is trying to test you now. I would stick to your guns all the way. If you don't now then you will lose all credibility.

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Not sure she was looking for anything... that's how she is. She has no respect for me or my job. Never has.

My previous job, I was oncall, worked weekend maintenance windows etc. My new job.. I get to work from home.. no oncall, no weekends, almost doubled my salary. Limited travel.. trips to tropical places if I did well.

She hates it. I don't get it!!



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JH,

I agree with trying, stick to your guns man. She can try and pretend that she never saw your letter but you can re-enforce the letter by how you act.

Keep it up, something's gotta give!


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I'm not much of a horoscope reader, but here is my "couples" horoscope:

You're laying down the ground rules, taking charge and telling everybody what's what. Your lover adores this take-charge side of your personality. Heck, you're getting to be pretty fond of it yourself.

I'll be damned. ;\)



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jh..

good job in the detachment.. keep it up and have a good day:)

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Married for 18 years this june
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Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
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Originally Posted By: jarhead
Not sure she was looking for anything... that's how she is. She has no respect for me or my job. Never has.

My previous job, I was oncall, worked weekend maintenance windows etc. My new job.. I get to work from home.. no oncall, no weekends, almost doubled my salary. Limited travel.. trips to tropical places if I did well.

She hates it. I don't get it!!


She hates it because it's not about her. I hate to say this Jar, but I think everything is all about her. Her reaction at urgent care illustrates that she wants to be the center of attention all the time.

My XW did the same kind of thing. The message was "if you really love me, my every whim will be your first priority." It is an unrealistic, soap-opera, view of the world. I wish I had some advice for you on how to deal with it, but I think that you are already doing better than I did.

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After I typed it, I thought that very same thing. Once again, immaturity/selfishness raising it's head.

It's always been about her.. I think that's the way she was raised.. her mom is a royal PITA. The only way her 2nd marriage has worked is because her H is a pilot. He's gone for days at a time and when he gets home.. he has a ton of todo's.

W has always wanted "the fantasy".. she just never could balance it out with a healthy dose of reality.



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The question then becomes, how do you keep your Ds from picking that up? That will be especially difficult without badmouthing their mom.

Hard stuff Jar. You'll do better than most.

Nut

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