Hi all, It's been a long time. I have been very busy. Is that GAL? I have been working on my cases and getting a new business going. Yes, time consuming which I really need.
Anyway, the last I posted it was about H's and the OW's emails. Since then I went dark. Then he called, we spoke. He invited me to Vegas for the weekend prior to Thanksgiving. I went. We had a wonderful time. He came home for the Thanksgiving weekend, we had a great weekend. Then he left this past Sunday to return, get his stuff, explain to his parents and is returning for good on Friday.
We have had some talks, good ones I think. He wants to repair our M. The OW he says is completely out of his life. I tend to believe him this time as she went ballistic and sent me some pretty ugly emails again. I canceled that account as I don't want to hear from her. H has made some positive changes and I believe is sticking to them. He understands why I might be skeptical this time.
I have stopped saying ILY to him as when he says it back I feel uncomfortable and not sure how he means it. When we had it out that last time he said he ILYAAF but INILWY. So I would rather not hear it until he initiates it and means it. He also agreed that counseling would be good for us. That's good bc we need it.
All these things are good but I have alot of anxiety. I'm worried about alot and not sure about him. I mean, I do love him and want our M but not sure how sincere he is and I know it's going to take time to rebuild our R and the trust that has been broken.
Anyway, just wanted to update. Hope everyone is ok.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Good to see you back on. I'm glad that you're working on things. I think it's only natural to be skeptical. You've been through hell, but it looks like you're coming back.
I hope you get to move on to piecing soon!!
We've missed you!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Hi Luv, Thank you for updating us. I have been thinking of you. It sounds like things are headed in the right direction. Take it one day at a time. I'm rooting for you!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hey there, glad to see you on the boards.. Great that he's moving back in to work it out. It will be a slow process but you will get through it. Don't rush anything, you want to be in a different place with him then before.
(((hugs)))
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hi everyone, lol. I am wondering who is more cautious...me or him?? Neither of us wants things to go back to where they were before. We both know what we want and don't want. We are considering moving 4 hours south of where we are now. He is not really happy here, no family. I have lived away from my family for most of my life so it doesn't bother me but it does him. So, we are talking and checking things out.
The hardest part will be learning to trust again, for both of us. It's hard for me to believe that the OW is gone but it sure seems like it. We are taking it slow. He does know that if he goes back to her again that's it. I can't handle it. I think he really does want our M and our family. We'll see. I feel like a cat on a hot tin roof though.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
