Just wondering about something. If you were aware your spouse posted here and it wasn't something they were hiding, would you look to see what was being discussed?
If yes, why? If no, why not?
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
Balto, I would look because I am curious by nature...I would just want to know! I admired Miss IC for having the self restraint to ask her H about anything private/off limits. I am puzzled/hurt by my H's lack of interest in what I am saying, knowing I am posting here.
I would definitely look if I knew about it -- I would be just too curious to see what was going on/what was being said.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I am puzzled/hurt by my H's lack of interest in what I am saying, knowing I am posting here.
I understand this feeling. I printed off and gave W a thread a long time ago that was very difficult (it was one where I was comparing having dinner with an ex-employee of mine and the attraction I had for her vs. how I feel in the M). You would think after seeing that thread she would at least like to know what I'm saying over here. Maybe she is afraid that her world view will be challenged. Not being a psychologist, but having stayed in a Holiday Inn Express recently, I would surmise that if she sees that many women her age care a lot about sex and intimacy it would shake her from her insulated world where that kind of stuff is for young lovers.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
I would surmise that if she sees that many women her age care a lot about sex and intimacy it would shake her from her insulated world where that kind of stuff is for young lovers.
1. I guessed that a W might not want to see written complaints/short comings about her. 2. I also think that some LD W's would think the HD women that post here are abnormal to some degree. 3. The LD W's would think LD is the norm and HD women were the abnormal people. 4. My guess is BB thinks the HD women that post here are just trying to keep their H happy because the women are insecure and some W's will do anything just to keep a man. 5. The currently LD women might think, but she (the HD woman) doesn't have all the problems the LD W has. 6. The LD W would say, that kind of stuff is for young lovers.
So she wasn't threatened at all about you enjoying dinner w/ another woman? Insane! But maybe I look at things differently since my H has cheated numerous times and I know that for a fact.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
So she wasn't threatened at all about you enjoying dinner w/ another woman? Insane! But maybe I look at things differently since my H has cheated numerous times and I know that for a fact.
This was a long time ago and this woman had just moved back to town from CA. I was above board about it but when the evening was done I told my W that I realized that there was a spark their that had been missing from our M for a long time. My W doesn't really get jealous. Sometimes I wish she did just so I could feel that she gives a damn, kwim? When we were first dating my ex gf was going through some hard times and my soon to be W suggested I see her and make sure she was ok. Then she said "Maybe I should get her a card or something". In many ways my W is eligible for sainthood.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
I know that I would be curious. I find myself looking for any clue that I can get my hands on to understand the inner workings of Ms.Hdog's mind.
And, Balto, I'm not sure if your wife is eligible for sainthood, or if she's just ignorant (intentionally or unintentionally) about temptations and powers of attraction. Either way, a little passion in defense of the relationship could have gone a long way toward letting you know that she cares. Even Reagan said, "Trust, but verify."
I would surmise that if she sees that many women her age care a lot about sex and intimacy it would shake her from her insulated world where that kind of stuff is for young lovers.