Metamorphasis is Here!!!

[mcojh]

Today's events totally changed my attitude, so I thought it deserved a new thread.

CW called today about some kid stuff and I was polite but short. I tried to end the conversation several times. She kept asking if I was crabby or what because I wasn't talking much. The call ended. Two minutes later she called back and said that she forgot to ask me if I had filled out that form yet (the proof of service). I told her I had and my attorney would be sending it to her attorney and then tried to end the call and she went on about how we don't talk. I told her that we were getting divorced and that she should get used to it. I told her we communicate just fine about kid stuff. She asked why we couldn't be friends I gave her the example about a new person in my life not liking me hanging with the CXW.

She told me that if I meet someone that she will be happy for me. She asked if I would be happy for her and I said no. I went on to emphaticlly say no when she told me I was being unfair.

She was blathering on and I told her that all of her lies were too much for me. She then said that she feels that in the last year she has been the most honest with herself and others. I then rattled off about 10 lies that came to mind. She then told me that "one lie isn't worser than another, you have told lies too." I told her I was done talking and hung up.

She came by tonight to pick some stuff. I was cordial but reserved. She was very teary when we got there. She was whining about all of the stress at work etc. I wasn't as sympathetic as I could be. I asked a few questions, very superficial.

I finally said politely she needed to go so I could put S6 to bed. She reallllllly doesn't like the way I am acting towards her. I realllly don't care.

[Heartbroken]

Hello MC!!

You sound more upbeat despite all the craziness. All along you have been the good friend to CW - from the very beginning. She really does not have a clue as to what a D will truly mean in terms of your friendship...It's like she wants you to accept everything on her terms regardless of the family she is destroying...

Hang in there!

HB

[Aud31]

Wow MC--you sound really strong, and you are right: no fair for her to think that she can tear your family apart and expect to be best buds. A pat on the back for standing your ground.

[mcojh]

Thanks Aud and HB. I amaze myself. Last night when she came over, she commented several times about the photo of the boys and I that I had done and hung up to replace our family picture that was about 2 years old. She was really teary when we got there. Maybe she is starting to see what she is losing and quite possibly, what she has lost for good. For all you DB hotties, the photo is S6 in his soccer uniform with a soccer ball, S16 in his letter jacket with his trumpet and me in my work uniform. I look way hot.

[Yoyowife]

Hubba Hubba...Hot!

[ourcrisis]

You are doing great. MC. Keep it up. Be friendly but set your boundaries. May be she is finally realizing what this means.

[fightingirish]

mc,

Good for you! Keep up your dbing.. its working and she will soon realize what she is losing and if she doesn't, its her loss..

tal

[mcojh]

Theo update-

I just talked to him and he is in quite a bit of pain from the waxing (see Ohio_mark's thread yesterday.) His hands are pretty sore because he also did the complimentary knuckle wax that comes as part of the "neanderthal man" package. He is happy as this is the first time in years that he has had more than one eyebrow.

[Sara]

This all sounds good. I guess Theo is primping in hopes of meeting some of us someday. We are all hoping to meet him too. I am planning to have the hump removed from my back before the big event.

[mcojh]

OK, serious post here.

CW was out of town since Thursday at her parents cabin with her sister and mom. She got home tonight.

She called me to talk about Christmas and what I planned to get the boys. She talks like we are best friends. She asked me about 5 times what was wrong because I wasn't talking much. We discussed Christmas presents etc. She then brought up Christmas itself. She asked me if I wanted to do something together for the boys to open their presents. I said NO. She asked why and I told her because we are getting divorced and this is what divorced is like. She said that she knows "lots" of people who are divorced and are still good friends. I told her that may be, (I resisted asking who) but I cannot be friends with her. I told her that I can be friendly for the boys, but I cannot be her friend. I assumed that this would end the conversation. Not so. She then went on to tell me all about her weekend. I listended and didn't add much.

WTFFFF!!!!!