Many years back on the MLC board, there was an expression we used, "watching them zoom by from the curb". An indication there is at times nothing you can do , but sit back, take a chair, and just watch the MLCer run around the block , going nowhere very fast. On Friday morning I woke up to see that there was a new snowfall on the windshields. Reminded me, winter is coming on and how I missed the former w's menopausal hot flashes. My goodness, she could warm up a cold winter bed in seconds when one of those would come on, better than any electric blanket! Except I was waking up in another bed, some distance from the home we once shared. An interesting Thanksgiving with some old friends and some new. All now single thanks to MLCers, or the demise of their spouse and a few "couples" in the non traditional sense. An odd assortment it would seem. But we all got together to celebrate Thanksgiving, bringing our own quirky lives to share a day, together. Everybody brought along their favorite dish, whether store bought or their own favorite recipe. I did a little cooking the night before, brought my favorite deviled eggs,broccoli casserole, and I got adventurous and did some scratch rolls via a new untried recipe (they were a hit)((phew!!)). A diverse Thanksgiving spread of various dishes, our hostess (my GF) did the bird. 20 minutes after we all had our fill,all the dishes were cleaned up, the kitchen was spotless, and the various take home leftover "care" packages were put together. What team work! By a bunch of "leftover" people. Hmmm? I don't think so. As much as we have felt "beat up" by our formers, there was a collection of people from assorted backgrounds that came together, had a wonderful time sharing experiences and were "living", despite having been "thumped up" in the past. Proves there is an "afterlife" having dealt with MLCers (and for the unfortunate that had a spouse pass on). Meanwhile, back to the former w, things are not looking very good. Her house is up for sale (again) and speculation is she got caught up in the balloon mortgage sitch when she bought it three years back. So, try to sell it at an inflated price in this depressed market isn't going to happen. Dirt on the street is a forecloser is coming. The gang of her new friends from four years back has diminshed to nil. No one left of the old friends. Hard to say whether they figured it all out and it didn't add up, and they all walked away or something else. She's gone into an isolation mode. Spotted a couple of times out in her car having lunch by herself. And that is a very sad thing. Angelica posted a question about humor and whether that goes by the wayside with MLC. They say my x's contagious laugh is no more. Everyone misses it. So my notes from the curb are this: Carry on with your own life. Don't wait to move on (ah yes, the age old question, when do you decide to do that - I don't know). Enjoy the new experiences given to you. Go try a new recipe, heck it might be a hit with friends and strangers, never know until you try it. And may you, also find, if need be, some new welcoming arms and warmth, as you wake up as the snow gentley falls. Peace to you that may read this. Life goes on.
we used to say, pull up a seat and watch the parade pass by. Or somthing like that.
I do see alot of analyzing now, and not enough of lettiing go, but since I am getting the big D, I feel many peeps would not want to hear from me, b/c in their eyes I may not be a success.
I love that all the "left overs" packed the left overs.
I am sad to hear about your X and the way she is now, it is really heart breaking, the path of destruction ,they leave behind, and still find themselves alone.
I am glad you are moving on, and are enjoying your new found place in this world.
Have wonderful warm filled Holidays.
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Your post brought me out of lurksville, your style of writing is excellent. I always remember your dog story, which I copied to the one liners thread.
The more time passes, the more I see that little dog. My wife is hurting, so she cut me out of her life. She has not eMailed in months, and the last time we had a phone conversation has to be years ago now.
Still hurting, so with me out of the way, it had to be her work colleague at work, who she kept a dossier of her indiscretions, and got her fired. The group of her new found friends has also diminished to nil.
My daughter recently visited her mother and brother. She was "told off" for things, that when her brother did exactly the same thing, was just dismissed. She actually had an arguement with her mother about the favouritism. It appears my daughter could not get away quick enough.
Wife is working from home now, so never really bothers to get dressed, just pulls on some "trackies".
She has gone back to former friends and foes. The foes, I just do not understand.
Her claims/reasons for leaving the marriage, was to do things before she is 50, and from what hear, she has done nothing, except go back.
My feelings are, that it will only be a matter of time before she outstays her welcome with her old friends and foes, and she will loose her job.
