I am in dire need of some help. My Husband has gotten very very very ugly. He won't even talk to me anymore. He backs off on everything he promises. Now he is going to take the money out of the account so I can not pay the bills.
I talked to one lawyer today and (the same one who told me I could go to family court) is now telling me that I won't be able to get the money I need to pay bills unless I file for divorce.
I did not want to file for divorce and now I am being forced to. What is he doing to me? Should I go ahead and file for divorce even though I do not want to?
B2m
Bomb 3/31/2007 Moved out 04/22/2007 Moved back in 06/11/2007 Wants to stay and try 09/04/2007
The same thing happened to me. I had to file to protect the financial assets. If he is spending like crazy and not protecting you financially, yes you need to file.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It is a personal decision. But you need to know and accept the consequences of whatever decision you make.
Start by seeking advice from another lawyer--letting her/him know you do not want a divorce.
But if you Stand and do not file, you may sacrifice financial security. That is a fine thing to do if you are willing...but kids make that a tough choice. I didn't have kids and was willing to lose anything financial. Without kids, the level of risk wasn't so great.
But the answer isn't so easy...yes or no. There are consequences to both. Can you file for separation instead? And if he can remove the money from the account, why can't you?
I don't know, but consider the risk of not filing and not reacting...not fearing his angry outbursts, but being kind to all shows of meanness and anger. SOME will cease the anger because it was a test. But this is not true of all.
I know in IL, I just called a L on Friday. My choices are D or nothing. He said that if LS, then we have to stay living apart and if my goal is M then LS wouldn't be a choice.
RCR, Thank you for your answer. I do not want to file for divorce. I also thought you should know that I took as much money as I could from the account and put it in an account with only my name on it.
But the majority of this money is to pay my tax bill on my house. So there is not much left after that.
I am so screwed and he does not see what he is doing. I am trying to work things out nicely but he just keeps getting madder and madder. Why is he doing this? I can not go into financial ruins because of him. When this house sells I still need to buy another house.
Is mediation a good way to go? B2m
Bomb 3/31/2007 Moved out 04/22/2007 Moved back in 06/11/2007 Wants to stay and try 09/04/2007
I am waiting for a call back from another lawyer. I asked the lawyer that this morning and she said I could not for some weird reason. I did not understand.
Bomb 3/31/2007 Moved out 04/22/2007 Moved back in 06/11/2007 Wants to stay and try 09/04/2007
L said it wouldn't be an option b/c my goal is M. He said you can't go into court in this state for LS or D until that's what you want your outcome to be.
