Yes Lil, I am 64 today. My BD is ten days after yours.
You and BB wished me a HBD. I am taking her out for Chili. Wish I could deliver some or something to you.
I don’t like but mind being older. One good thing about being older is I only have "One" more year till I can get Medicare. I gave up my personal health insurance because the monthly payments were over $1,300 a month and I had the largest deductible the company offered.
As a virtual present for you, Dr. Mojo has decided to take on your case. I feel that I have valuable insight to offer in terms of diagnosis since I am currently dating a man who half reminds me of you and although I am semi-loath to admit it, BB has always half reminded me of me. Your description of her dating/petting behavior with you in your youth makes it clear that she is a natural "bunkey" sexually.
First off, a very important question that will help me determine whether your case is terminal. If you were to become ill with some sort of dangerous fever-producing illness like Typhoid and you were rendered unable to do or even think about any of your usual uber-responsible Lou things, do you believe that BB would take care of you? IMPORTANT NOTE: By taking care of you, I mean do her best in her own way to nurse you back to health. I do NOT mean do things the way you would. For instance, she gets points for buying you the electrolyte drink that she thinks tastes better rather than the one that costs less.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
As a virtual present for you, Dr. Mojo has decided to take on your case. WOW, I get the resident cow, monkey, lioness, bunky to look at my case. Just leave the swan, as I know them, in the pond. They are mean critters IRL when you get close to them. BB had 3 mean geese. Boy, can they pack a wollop!
I feel that I have valuable insight to offer in terms of diagnosis since I am currently dating a man who half reminds me of you and although I am semi-loath to admit it, I see some similar traits too.
BB has always half reminded me of me. Your description of her dating/petting behavior with you in your youth makes it clear that she is a natural "bunkey" sexually. BB was Way hotter than I was ever told about. Of course she was ready to get M a long time before I thought I could support her. GF’s some how get pregnant and become SAHM all to fast sometimes. I didn’t have the $$$ to pull that off when we met.
I wish I could have read the SSM forum before or when I was dating or first M to BB. I would have paid more attention to her and not worked as much. I was overly responsible most of my life.
First off, a very important question that will help me determine whether your case is terminal. If you were to become ill with some sort of dangerous fever-producing illness like Typhoid and you were rendered unable to do or even think about any of your usual uber-responsible Lou things, do you believe that BB would take care of you? Yes!
IMPORTANT NOTE: By taking care of you, I mean do her best in her own way to nurse you back to health. I do NOT mean do things the way you would. For instance, she gets points for buying you the electrolyte drink that she thinks tastes better rather than the one that costs less. Yes again. Taste, comfort, easy, are her things.
Nurse BB would remind me to drink, pet the dogs, and ask me what my urine output was. Input/output, It’s a nurse thing.
When I was in the hospital and had back surgery it was; how do you feel, pulse and respiration- blood pressure check, how much did you drink, and how much pee was in the urinal. Almost humiliating, but I know why.
No nookie for BD so far. I will go for it to night.
Okay, so BB is capable of behaving like a responsible, caring adult. IOW, she has a functional cow. Now, it is abundantly clear that you have the male equivalent of a cow (let's call it the St. Bernard) which is, obviously, a good thing. Unfortunately, due to your FOO experiences you are unable to move freely out of the St. Bernard quadrant into the other quadrants of your identity. You don't have the problem of having too much Puppy Dog- you don't treat BB like a goddess or a queen but because you stay stuck in St. Bernard, you treat her too much like a princess or a baby.
Anyways, question number two: How do you behave when you are actually having sex with BB? IOW, how do you f*ck? (This might seem like a stupid question but it is based on my recent re-discovery that different men do the basic deed differently and thereby convey different messages to their partners.)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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