thanksgiving was on the whole pretty good, all 4 children were together. makes my heart warm to see them all interacting together. found out dil is being induced today, so i am going to be a grandfather again today. awesome. actually was disappointed in myself how my mood was thanksgiving morning. i was rather morose. i think my wife picked up on it. went to grandmothers house, 32 people showed up. beautiful day. w is so emotionally dead to me. i am disappointed in my w , she was planning on leaving to visit her 93yr old grandmother right after tg dinner. she still did even after finding out about birth . she could have waited after the baby was born.her self absorsing is really starting to get to me. i do not know this woman anymore. i know this is part of the process, since i see everyone going through this. i will not give up thought, keep db'ing. praying for the lords touch. i will enjoy the few days w will be gone. have lots to do around the house. everyone take care
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I'm so glad to see you enjoyed your family all together. Congrats on being a Grandpa, again! That is wonderful.
Disappointment in the spouse, I've found is very common. You know they need to change for the better, but yet there is nothing you can do about. If they don't do that by themselves they will feel like they have been forced or made a wrong decision. When I let go of that, and let my H travel his own journey, he seemed to come back to me that much faster. I knew he was coming around when he started to 'mimic' everything that I had been doing...being polite, respectful, doing things FOR ME, repeating sometimes what I would say. I would agree, I felt the same way about my H, that I didn't know who he was anymore. And you don't, that women you knew is currently missing. When she is coming back someday, you will fall in love with that new person that she is. At least this is what happened to me.
I even told my H now that we are on better terms at the moment, that I didn't know if I could be with someone who couldn't grow and change. But now that he has grown and is changing himself, I love that about him. I hope this insight on my R gives you some hope to keep plugging away. You are still doing well and getting better and better each day.
Take care
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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thank you pudmuddle, you are right. i will not give up. just a little frustrated that there is no sign of w wanting to really r talk, or show some sign of wanting to be closer. but is still early in the process. hope you had a wonderful tg. i cannot wait to see the new granddaughter. i am waiting for the call.
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venting time- after thinking about yesterday and the fact my wife left on her trip after she found out our grandaughter was going to be born. she helped raise my two oldest children like her own. this just shows how totally detached she has become from not just me but from her children. fortunately my anger is tempered by the knowledge that she is definitely not thinking clearly. i will not say anything, but she may have to deal with the repurcussions from her children later on.
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sat morning, well new grandaughter was born at 4.00pm yesterday afternoon. 6-lbs-12oz healthy as a lark. dil was amazing according to my son. her older sister was a piece of work in the waiting room . bouncing off the walls. couldn't keep the funk out of mind over my wife not being there to witness the birth. still very disappointed in her. i called her and left a message on her cell phone to let her know. she called home and left a message and said she would call later, which she did not. i took the two younger children to a nice dinner and came home and played trivial pursuit. pretty good day overall.
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w still out of town. has not called to check on kids. more of the same. has not checked on new granddaughter. actually glad she is not here, i am still too mad at her for not staying in town for the birth. part of the waw pattern.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
woog, thank you. went to sons house this afternoon. got to hold the pretty little lady. forgot what it was like. precious.
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