If you could be completely loved by a man, but sexual desire was absent, would that be an acceptable state of relational existence for you?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Oh, Nop, you know that about a year ago, I may have said yes, however, HELL NO.
I love everything about our sex life now. The fact that I am fulfilling him and giving him enjoyment/pleasure. I love the intimacy that comes with it and the closeness.
And it's good for me too -- I don't think I'll ever want to go back to the way it was.
Last edited by RedHeadWife; 11/23/0712:34 PM.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
If a man was a MAN and he COMPLETELY loved ME he would desire (broadly defined) to have sex with me or he would set me free. In other words, if you had a pet that was part monkey and you knew it was part monkey but you knew you weren't able/willing to let it out of the cage to play then if you really loved it you would know that was an unhealthy existence for a monkey and you would take it back to the jungle even though you would miss it and worry about it.
Last edited by MJontheMend; 11/23/0703:50 PM.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Oh, I guess I read the question wrong immediately as it's usually the woman's desire that is lacking that we are talking about around here. But, if we are talking about the man's desire being absent? The answer is no, so I guess I was being a lot hypocritical over the years, huh?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Hmmm... I guess that question could use clarification. NOP, were you asking the women if they would be in a R with a completely loving devoted H when HE doesn't desire you, or when the W doesn't desire him? Or, I guess, when there's no sexual desire on either part?
I think if you are completely loved by a MAN, sexual desire cannot be absent. Unless you are the man's mother. Otherwise, you are not completely loved by the man.
Even in my highest LD days, I had a sex drive. I just had no interest in sharing that drive because of all the other stuff happening in the R. And no, it was not an acceptable state of relational existence, mirrored by the fact that I am now D.
NOP If you could be completely loved by a man, but sexual desire was absent,.............. I first thought of asking BB what she would want in a sexless M.
My assumption is a case something similar to Lil’s.
I guess I will wait till NOP expands the question.
Corri, so even when you were LD you still wanted sex. Most sex starved H’s think their W almost never has a sex drive and avoids anything that is sexual, including sexual thoughts and feelings, sometimes to an extreme.
Lou
If you as a woman could be completely loved by a man, but his sexual desire for/towards you was absent, would that be an acceptable state of relational existence for you as a wife?
List things that would have to be present in the M so you (the woman) would be happy/satisfied?
