I don't understand how H can pick some girl he's known for 4 months over his kids. When he files and it's final, I have to move across the country with the kids and live with my parents. How can he pick this girl! She's an ex addict, just recently stopped using coke. So what if she has a job and therefore money. He wanted me to stay home after I had our D and take care of the kids! They're 2.5 and 6 months!!!! I just don't understand!!!! What could she possibly offer that I can't!? Besides sex. And I even gave him that whenever! He cheated on me with her for 2 weeks before I found out about her!!!! WTF?! He can't even be honest with her! He won't tell her about those 2 weeks. And he won't tell her that I'm going up north to his parents cottage for Thanksgiving because he invited me. She knows he invited me and she's pissed. But won't tell her I'm actually going!!! I don't understand!!! Please someone!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
It doesn't make any sense. But it's not because she's so great and you're not. He's immature, selfish, wants to feel free...whatever. I'm so sorry you are in this situation.
If you want to see reasons/dynamics of an affair...check out marriagebuilders.com. But use Michele's advice...not theirs. Theirs is the After the Last Resort Technique. You have a lot more options. (Divorce Remedy)
If you need to laugh...First Wives Club....Diary of a Mad Housewife.
Hang In There.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Julz, I know I mentioned this before, OW in my sitch is a low life, too. I agree it's not because she's great and you're not. (She obviously isn't.) A big part of affairs is the emotional aspect. I know that was a big part of my H's affair. He was not happy with our M, neither was OW happy in hers. I'm sure she played that card to her advantage. It was pure emotional attachment. When I think about the fact that my H could even consider leaving me for her, I want to leave him!
She will reveal her true self, sounds like she already is. She will dig her own grave. Let her be nasty, angry, desperate and clingy. If you DB and GAL, you will be the opposite and in the long road, be the more attractive person.
