I am posting in LoveShack under the same name, and I would be happy to see some feedback here.
We are separated and have been living in the same house for 2 months. My wife really wants out of the marriage. She is done with me, but loves me and cares about me.
I feel I have tried most of the things I have read. It seems that I have been too good and this does not work. It seems that I have been pushy, and surely this does not work. She is involved in a long-distance relationship and seems very much in love. I have told her to prepare a separation agreement and I will consider it. A week ago I discovered her affair and told her I was filing for divorce, but after I calmed down, I am not sure I want to do this. I feel she should take the responsibility and file whenever she wishes to. She is not eager to get divorce.
Any hints or ideas what to do? She needs a wake up call, I think. Perhaps going for divorce may wake her up, but it may not. I can be still the nice guy at home, but this does not work at all. I can move towards tough love, but this may not work either, as she may find me disrespectful.
