It was a Sunday for me too. Ruined football for a while for me. Sundays were our day too. It was when we spent the most time together. Craig is right. You need to start new traditions for yourself. I did and it's helped me get through the day.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
en, pretty sure, my wife is on a journey by herself, i cannot ride along i can only be here to help support in anyway i can. she seems sure of her decision to d, but story line is not yet written, and certainly not completed. it is Gods hands.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I'm 90% sure there isn't anyone else. Perhaps an EA but I'm fairly sure no PA. I live in a very small town and it would more than likely get back to me.
My wife also seems to be on her own journey. It's funny, but I can't help her even though I want to. She wants nothing from me right now. Too many years of my "taking care of everything". It's kind of funny that I'm being faulted for be too good a provider.
Btw, what is it with WAWs and Sundays? Too many to be a coincidence.
I'm sort of in limbo on Sundays. I'm still at home and the kids may think something is up but don't know what. W wants to maintain this for now. It's hard to start a new tradition in that circumstance.
I'm pretty sure that Sunday's are bad for the W as well. She spent most of yesterday on the other side of the house. We barely talked the whole day. I was expecting the worst.
This morning, she's smiling and seems upbeat. 180 from yesterday. Got a hug as I left.
Hey Woog, Sunday morning started off with a really bad R conversation...I lost it...broke all the rules. Left the house for most of the day..wife called me to pick up some stuff for supper. I can't remember the last time she made supper. Anyhow, we watched TV together and for the first time in a while she gave me a kiss before going to bed. Considering the conversation we had earlier in the day, this came as a total surprise. I wonder if it was a PMS WAW cocktail that did the trick ;-). Anyhow, this AM. she asks me to take care of her winter tires. Asks me in a joking manner what was for supper etc. almost as if we were having regular conversation again. I had offered last week and she said she would take care of it herself thank-you very much. Like you, I got a hug and another kiss before she left......ROLLERCOASTER
No kisses for me right now. I miss them a great deal. She was/is a great kisser.
Honestly, we have only had one R conversation in the past 25 days and it was initiated by her last Sunday. It was short and didn't go anywhere. For a while it took a lot of will power for me not to start one, but now I'm fine. I do still sort of dread her starting one. I'm afraid it will be one I won't like much.
I don't know why I'm writing things like the following for complete (somewhat) strangers.......
Last night was interesting. I have this routine I do when I get home from work. Before I go eat dinner I turn down our bed. Sorta fold back the covers and set up my wife's pillow. Still doing it.
However, last night when I got home I found that my wife had turned down the covers on the bed already. On both sides.
I know this is completely a small thing and may sound strange, but it made me smile. She's never done that before.
Just sleeping on the same floor of the house as my wife sounds good. Having her do anything that actually showed a hint of affection would be unheard of. Then again, I haven't exactly made it easy lately for her to feel affectionate towards me. My fault. Take every baby step you can get and be happy with them.
Me:46 Her:40 Daughter:7 She Dropped Bomb:10/7/07 She Filed Papers w/State:10/30/07 I Left Home:11/11/07 I Moved Back In:11/13/07 My Outlook: I want nothing more than a future together and will do whatever it takes. Her Outlook: Been too long coming, I'm done.
