I've been thinking about the IC's situation and realizing how sometimes it takes a crisis to help us focus on what's GOOD in our lives, especially when we're in the habit of focusing on what we'd like to be changed.
NOTE: This is not to say that the bad stuff should just be overlooked, blown off, ignored, etc. But sometimes it's nice to look among the things that are pi$$ing us off and find something to be glad about.
I invite anyone who feels like it to post:
1) something that you're grateful for or thankful about
2) REGARDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR YOUR PARTNER (not that your team won, or that you got a good deal on a new car)
3) IN THE LAST 48 HOURS (not something they used to do, or did when you were first married-- but something in the present)
Those are the only conditions... Let's see what this feels like... keep it simple...
I'll start: I'm grateful that my bf loves my cats so much. He nagged me (very nicely and non-judgmentally) over a period of months to take one of them in to the vet and the problem was fixable with surgery (yesterday). Looking forward to seeing this sweet animal in good health again.
Seriously Lill, where do I start with this one. I've got the most understanding and caring woman that I could ever hope for. I am constantly putting her through hell and yet she comes through it with a grace and style that I admire. Miss IC you're the best..I love you honey !
Okay, all you lurkers... how about coming out and posting a sentence or two, hmmmm? It doesn't hurt; it can feel pretty good to say something and be heard by someone.
I'm grateful for cac's support the last few days. S4's teacher thinks that he might have Sensory Processing Disorder (a neurological disorder). I've been reading as much as I can find on the disorder, talking to other moms, and trying to arrange for evaluations. My feelings have ranged from sadness and fear (there's something wrong with my child), to relief (maybe this is why he seems "different" than other kids sometimes), to guilt (why didn't I follow up on my gut feelings sooner), to sadness again, and more guilt, to determination that we will figure it out and get him whatever treatment he needs.
cac has been listening when I want to talk and that is just what I need right now. So thanks, C. :-*
I am thankful for having a good Veteran'a Hospital 250 miles away that will do a hernia repair for me for next to nothing. I do have private insurance but the out of pocket costs are high. VA bills the private ins, then picks up the rest except for a small co-pay.
BTW, BB said she will miss me when I am gone for the 2 days. Ride there tomorow AM, pre evaluation on Monday afternoon.
Surgery at 7AM on Tuesday and I get to ride back home the 250 miles around 1PM that day. I hope I make it home w/o too much trouble.
I had just about a perfect weekend with my husand, delightfully balanced between hours of conversation, sex, and our own individual pursuits. I'm so grateful that I can't even describe it that he has such a large and generous spirit to have been willing to grow and change to meet my needs and that we both hung on long enough to get here. If you'd told me six months ago that I'd be here now, I might not have believed .... gratitude is surely indicated.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
I'll play. I'm thankful my wife has stuck with me even though there may have been times she possibly shouldn't have. We are very different people and ultimately it may be un-fixable, but she has hung in there with grace even when my frustrations have caused me to act in (to put it mildly) "less than ideal" ways. I am thankful that she is willing to keep trying. I do not know whether that will turn out to be enough, but I appreciate the effort.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
Even those of you who are globally pi$$ed off and discouraged... find one thing about your R or partner that you are grateful for in the last couple of days.
It doesn't mean you're "over" the hurt, or even that you've forgiven him or her for whatever grievance you have. You can still be mad, hurt, and unsatisfied (goodness knows, that's something I'm very good at).
Just one thing you're grateful for. Your partner need never know! It's our secret.
Lots of people are reading this thread... I'm grateful for those who have crawled out into the clearing to "play" (as Balto aptly put it).
