Should I Be Worried Or Not?

[LostInMN]

Easy question, I think...

I found out tonight that my wife, the WAS, has a cell phone that no one seems to know about, no one has ever seen it, and the minutes on it are shared with someone else. I don't know how sharing minutes works; is it likely she's sharing them with OM?

Or am I just setting myself up for a bad confrontation I really don't want to have. She's INSISTED there is no one else, but on the other hand, she spent less than 30 days from dropping the bomb out of the blue to having papers signed and going through the courts, she also appears overly willing to give up on property and income she might need once the divorce goes through, i.e child support.

Thoughts?

[LostInMN]

Well, since I haven't been sleeping for the last hour anyway, I thought I'd get up and give this a bump.

Bump.

[wawpioneer]

I am not sure how to look at your sitch either because it sounds close to mine. Her cell phone bill was direct billed and we do not get a copy of it except on the internet and she is the only one with the passwords. I know she had an EA but she swears up and down that she never touched the guy. He lives over 6 hours away. Hard to swallow that nothing ever happend but she too is eager to get the divorce done and not give us a chance at all. I have a hard time trusting her anymore to say the least and it is hard to believe that no PA happened. I have decided though that all I can really do is take her for her word. For some, the guilt of a PA is a heavy burden to bear and they do not want any of their friends and family to know. This is a strong reason to keep it under wraps. I feel for you and hope for your sake that she has not.

Before the end I plan to approach my WAW in this manner. I will tell her that throughout our whole relationship to my knowledge she has never lied to me when I have ever asked her a direct question and I am believing you now when you say that you have never touched him. I will then ask her again to reaffirm that they never had physical contact and see what she says. I don't know if that is a good strategy but days before the D is final we will have that talk I think. Any thoughts?

[mcojh]

LIM-

Have you read Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy? IMHO, and something I wish I had done a better job at, is that your W is an alien right now and no amount of logic will work.

The decision you have to make regarding the phone is what will it change? Does it matter? On one hand, I would want her to know that I know. It is a respect thing for me. On the other hand, what does it matter?

You made a good call on moving back in. The worst thing for your legal case is to move out.

Good luck. Send me an e-mail at [e-mail] I have a ? for you.