Hello I am kidsaver...I was a regular on this site beginning in July of 2006 for about 10 months...my seperation lasted 11 months..the D was final in June of 2007...Well guess what my X approached me about reconciliation a few weeks ago...never really gave up and continued to Dbust all though not with the same intensity...but I did do my best to maintain a good relationship with the X and be her friend through it all especially for the kids sake...things are going wonderfully and we still have some work to do....we are trying to be smart about it....but she wants to come home and we are talking about re-marriage down the road. We are both happy....learned alot about what went wrong in our marriage and she has become the wonderful person I married 14 years ago again....Oh I guess I could elaborate alot but I remember all the frustration and despair that was bantered about on this site. So just thought I would tell everyone its not always over. I only see a couple of screen names I remember and I guess I might move over to the Divorce but not Done forum.
I'm glad you were able to work things out. I am divorced and my separation / divorce followed almost exactly the same time frame as yours. It gives me hope.
Congrats KS - though not yet divorced (all but done according to her), this does give me hope. I have read numerous sources that suggest between 6-20% of divorces eventually end up getting remarried (the 20% number seems high to me).
Good luck!
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
KS; I haven't been a big poster but you were supportive in my early days nearly one year ago. You encouraged me with your thoughts back last winter. My MLC/WAS filed for divorce on Sept 11th. Didn't tell me himself - I found out from my lawyer. It's been a rough year for you as well - no doubt. You have never given up hope and shown grace in your turmoil. I wish you well and hope that you find the gold at the end of your rainbow. Patience is key...thank-you for returning to share your update. All the best in this next phase. Sweetpea
I'm sorry for the confusion. I meant to imply that of couples who get divorced from each other 6-20% get re-married to each other (depending on different sources).
The 60% number is most likely associated with the divorce rate for second marriages. The rate of divorce is even higher for marriages that resulted from an affair.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
Yep very excited..ecstatic. We are both very happy and confident in our future...we have both learned alot about what went wrong, what we did right and what we want to do in the future. I have not posted in a few days...I have been busy spending time with her..We are not rushing it but the plan is for to come home pretty soon...right now we are just enjoying the time together.
