Kind of a continuation of HD-LD thread... and kind of long
Well I'm sitting here resting after my surgery. Miss IC took the girls grocery shopping and I've had some time to look back at what all has transpired in the last few days... and the last few months for that matter. Guys, I DON'T know what I'm doing. I came on this board a few shorts months ago lost and confused and for the most part...I STILL am. I've got a lot more tools in the toolbox thanks to many on here, and a pretty good blue print of where I would like to be. But when it comes to using these tools, I'm still just a young, confused apprentice.
This bunch has welcomed me and later on, my wife onto this board with open arms and if it's ok, I'd like to hang around for awhile...I'm not through learning yet. I know for the most part we are all a bunch of people hiding behind a screen name and in real life, probably will never meet or get to know the REAL persons. It's nice to have a good supporting cast of friends, whether they be real or on a board like this....I feel fortunate to have both
There is a lot of people that have given me some tools, a lot of good, good people. Over time, some posts get lost or over looked in the shuffle and we don't always get a chance to respond to each other in a timely manner. I know personally, I don't have much to offer to you folks as far as advice goes. I feel like I am a taker instead of a giver, although I'd like to put in my 2 cents worth on a few, just from what my simple mind has picked up on. This list could go on and on so don't feel bad or unappreciated if your name is not on here.
Crazy Eddie - Buddy, you're not so crazy as your name suggests. You've got a good head on your shoulders that lends itself to some very good, well thought advice from the male point of view. I don't know you that well, but keep at it my friend. Gotta keep these girls on here in line (yea right )
Mojo - You've got this little stable of animals going on and I don't quite fully understand the context of it all and that's ok - YOU do. I've made numerous comments and they usually mention a ferret. This has always been just me cracking jokes in my off beat sense of humor way. But now that I've had time to think about it..have you ever witnessed a ferret play? They play like there is no tomorrow, they don't over analyze the situation because they know that whatever predicament they play themselves into - they can almost always twist and spin their way out of it with nothing more than a few hairs ruffled - Mojo, let a ferret into your stable - have fun, don't analyze what others might think - Have fun !
RJ - I'm sorry girl...but you're HOT ! Feel it, believe it, - get that confidence that I know is there and take that man of yours, rough him up, throw him on the bed and .... ...you know I can almost give you the 100 % money back IC guarantee that if you do that every now and then, he's not going to stray again. And if he starts, yank that leash back and say "get over here boy ! This woman's hot and you got work to do!"
Lill - Lill, you're like the shepherd tending to her flock. Trying to keep them all safe while guiding them along to greener pastures. And if this little black sheep gets out of line and you have to use your crook on his backside....he'll understand and always respect you for it. Thanks for looking out for my best interests.
Corri, Corri, Corri...what more can I say about you kid that I have not already said. Your boot yielding, azz kicking style is just what the board needs. Girl, you've got a full, full plate in front of you and I know it's in your nature to try and keep ll the plates spinning at the same time. You come on here and grind away trying to help the rest of us sort through our struggles, but kid slow down and take care of yourself first. I saw it, Miss IC saw it, many have seen it...you've got a special talent. Maybe if I stick around here long enough, and learn from the master...maybe someday I can get to utter these words..."What would IC say?" ....and then you'll come along and say "shut the fck up IC, and get your azz back in the closet" and life will be good
I know this has been long but here is a true, somewhat eerie little story to end this... I'm sitting on the couch this morning and my little 2 year old, curly haired, blue eyed, heartbreaker of a girl came and crawled up in my lap. She noticed the scar on my ankle and said as if on cue "Daddy, does your boo-boo hurt?" I hadn't thought about it but all those "what if ?" questions raced through my mind. What if I did make it, would I be sitting here today holding this little angel? I paused for a minute and looked into her big curious eyes - "no baby, not anymore"
Sh*t, man, that brought tears to my eyes. I have the little boys, but so hear you. That was very, very good!
Everything happens for a reason, right?
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Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Hey IC, I am glad you and Miss IC are going to stick around awhile. I've taken some absences from the board and when I come back, I always learn something new. It's really amazing. I find that the breaks are necessary let everything sink in, or just be a ferret for awhile, but then I'm ready to do this work again. The attachment we all have to this board is...interesting. I mean, I still post here although my issue no longer about SSM. You have Corri who's divorced, MJ who is on her way to divorce, Lil who isn't married...I mean, why are we here? Yet we keep coming back, knowing that this special little group will take the time and effort to help one another get unstuck and move forward.
Anyway, glad the surgery is over, and go rest so we can torture you some more!
Anyway, glad the surgery is over, and go rest so we can torture you some more!
LOL, bring it on babe, bring it on !! Actually, not much rest. I was surprised at what they got scheduled so soon for re-hab. I was hoping to be able to milk this out with Miss IC for awhile but no dice
Hey, question for ya... I know you said you changed your screen name from....fck !! slipped my mind...anyway's are those posts gone forever? I don't see them.
I changed my sn a few times ( they are all some form of Journey), but this one is for real...get it, Real? You could probably access my last sn, which was NewJourney.
I've thought about changing mine...Bud....Wise...eeer. Get it, the Budweiser frogs..louie the lizard...the ferret..Ohhh never mind !! Nobody loves my ferret I actually had 5 of them at one time..NO ! not on a sandwich ! Shame on you...their better skewered like shish-ka-bobs
When you change your name, it gets changed on all your old posts, too. If you click (and release) on RealJourney's name in the column to the left of any post of hers, you should get a popup menu with "view posts" as one of the options.
Lill, I must be doing something wrong. I tried what you're saying but it shows it only goes back to like September ?? I think the oldest post it shows is RJ annoucing her name change ? I'm not the brightest crayon in the box so I'm probably doing something wrong.
Oh, okay... you're right. You're not doing anything wrong. There was a board before this one where you could go back to all the posts. With all the traffic here (and NO charge to join) I'm thinking some space saving measures needed to be installed. One day we came here and the whole format had been changed. For us addicts, it was a big shock, but now we're mostly used to it. If you go to the search button somewhere at the top of the page, you can probably put in RealJourney's name and simply search for posts around a certain date. Just pick a date. All of the posts are still there, but you have to search. I'm not being much help (except to reassure you that you're not crazy.)
Mrs. NOP is the queen of searching, so maybe she can give you some pointers (if she's listening in).
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