Gaining positive overlap

[MaxP]

Anyone got any tips for how to increase the amount of interaction with a WAW who's declared "it's over"?

Thinking back over the weeks we have been separated, there has been little direct interaction between us and most of that has been negative or neutral - hardly the basis for making her believe that our R is worth investing in. This may be because we choose poor locations to meet up (i.e. at home), often seem to be delivering bad news or simply meet for tedious, practical reasons. My W also usually chooses to meet under controlled circumstances - i.e. at (my) home with another appointment to get to so she doesn't have to hang around. It would be nice to change the emphasis here to something that is more relaxed, natural and without pressure.

One problem I have is that part of me wants to not see her in order to aid the healing process - but that's not possible. The other part thinks that she will simply refuse to meet or be so suspicious of anything that our interaction will get off to a bad start - a common problem. Perhaps increasing any kind of positive interaction is a better solution. Any ideas?

On a personal note I am rereading DR with a view to stopping, doing some real thinking and then attempting to put observations into practice. Almost all of what I read makes so much sense, I only wish my W would contemplate just some of the things Michelle talks about. However, even if it doesn't help my M it should help me get through what is a pretty confusing time all round. Thanks for the prod Dom!

Cheers,

Max