am usually over on separated, but thought I'd come over here looking for words of wisdom, since likely man/most of you were in this position.
H and I are currently separated (he lives with OW, but won't admit as much to me), but neither has filed or even talked D in a realistic way.
he just e-mailed me that we can't go on like this anymore, and need to set aside time to talk when the kids aren't around. I think it will be saturday, assuming we can get his mom to watch the kids.
so now I am here, bawling my eyes out, not ready for the talk.
any advice on how to get thru it? any suggestions? I don't want to fall apart in front of him. I know I can't stop a train wreck...if he wants to do this, there is nothing I can do to stop it. but wondering if there is anything I can do...or avoid doing...that might help/make a difference...or at least guarantee I make it thru w/o being a complete emotional puddle on the floor by the end.
thanks
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I just bought James Dobson's book "Love Must be Tough". My divorce was final on August 24th. My ex is now seeing OM and has been for some time. I just wish I knew how long. I wish I would have purchased the book when I was first separated. He speaks from almost 20 years of marriage counseling based on a Christian perspective. Don't know what else to say except that divorce sucks and you will get through it. Try to stay really busy. Keep around supportive friends.
