Yesterday I went to the attorney's office and went through our decree so they can write up the final decree. I get to take the papers to H when they are ready. What fun that will be???? I keep saying what does it matter if a piece of paper will make me feel better...but I am ready to get it over with. Don't take me the wrong way i DON't a D or anything else but he is so far gone. He has a GF that is 21 and he is 29 and all he hangs around with is her and her younger sisters. She lives with him and it really bothers me. I guess I need to feel blessed that she likes my girls and is good to them...so I guess I need to be thankful for that. I am still a little sour he got the house we bought BUT he didn't pay the taxes last year and the taxes just came out this year..so they paid it. His 1st lien payment went from 891.00 to 1697.00..and his Mom hired him and is paying his house note!! Wouldn't it be nice to have rich parents??!!! and the sad thing is that his parents are not that well off. I am not sure why she keeps paying everything for him. All that does is give him the way to go out and get drunk every night. This morning he looked TERRIBLE when I dropped the girls off with him. Anyway enough about my whining...thanks for listening!!
I remember you from when I was here a year and a half ago. I am sorry to see your situation has not gotten better. I know it is hard. I have a H that has a Mother that does everything for him. I turned the electric out of my name when I left and she turned everything on in his name. She hired him and gave him an advance in pay so he could go to the mountains with his mistress. It is hard but you are lucky the girls are taken care of. My husbands OW is bipolar just like he is and together they are quite scarey so my children have had little to no contact with their dad in the beginning and now we are 1400 miles away to be safe.
Hang in there and be the best you can be. You are a wonderful person and in time your life will look up for you. I get so tired of people telling me that but I do believe its true.
People always say when God closes a door he opens a window but what they neglect to tell you is it is hell in the hallway!
Hang in there.
Hugs
M 32 H 39 SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4 E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06 On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again. On 08/11/07 Walked out again.
People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"
I am so sorry to hear about the GF being bipolar that is scary. That is a very scary disease and usually when they get to feeling better they quit their meds..and they are back to sqaure one.
I seem to be getting stronger and stronger as the months go by. I have been focusing on proving him wrong for so many months that me and my family are not white trash I was forgetting all the things he had done for me to get to the point I was at when he walked out. No we don't live in the multi-millon dollar houses BUT we all have nice houses cars and household goods. We are just average working people. The best part is that we have worked hard to get it, not just have it handed to us. That is something to be proud of. Like AmyC told me a few months back..he does not deserve my tears any longer. Is it hard, do I miss having someone to come home to at night?? YES I do!! and my cell phone doesn't ring as much as it used to..but guess what that was all about..his insecurities, that is why he had to call a million times a day. I wonder if he is doing it to GF, but if he is it is for the same reasons. Do they have something special, only time will tell that but that is something that I cannt change. I am pretty happy with my life. I would one day like to have someone special in my life again, but right now I don't trust anyone not to hurt me and that would not be right to anyone else. Healing is a good thing!
Healing is a good thing. I just read a really good book called "The courage to be a single mother" by Sheila Ellison. It really helped me with a lot of the fear and questions about doing it on my own. It also had some great ideas. I still hope that I will not be a single mother forever but for now I am and there is nothing I can do but embrace it. It is good to see you are doing the same. Keep moving forward.
Hugs
M 32 H 39 SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4 E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06 On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again. On 08/11/07 Walked out again.
People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"
