Just found out that he is also sleeping with someone else as well. Caught lots of sex talk with this person including references to their last time together. I don't know where he finds the time.
This hurts really bad....all over again.
He seems happy at home, spending time with me but obviously he is living a secret life. I am glad I know, I am tired of being a mushroom, but it still hurts. I am trying hard to get a life, and am slowly succeeding, but sometimes resolve flags and I fall into a blue funk. The things he says to her are all sexual in nature and he tells me he is impotent. Another lie.
Just found out that he is also sleeping with someone else as well. Caught lots of sex talk with this person including references to their last time together. I don't know where he finds the time.
This hurts really bad....all over again.
He seems happy at home, spending time with me but obviously he is living a secret life. I am glad I know, I am tired of being a mushroom, but it still hurts. I am trying hard to get a life, and am slowly succeeding, but sometimes resolve flags and I fall into a blue funk. The things he says to her are all sexual in nature and he tells me he is impotent. Another lie.
So, the conclusion I come to is that he is having an EA and possible PA with one woman and a definite PA with another. What the hell???!!! I think I will take myself by myself to a movie tonight. Something with action...shooting and such.
PS...he hasn't touched me sexually for 3 years. I feel like a nun.
I don't know if any one else has revenge fantasies, but I do. I know it's a waste of time, but it helps work out the rage I sometimes feel. The truth is, I probably could never act on these fantasies, but if I did I could ruin lives. I could easily destroy the OW he is having an EA and PA with, both personally and professionally, but I'm better than that. She is the one who rips apart peoples lives with no regard for them, not me. But sometimes, when I'm angry, it is satisfying to think of all the things I could do and the consequences for her. Is this common?
North, I think we all have revenge fantasies. Funny thing is that even my DD 16 feels that way. Tonight one of her friends was over here and she said well we can't go egg the OW's house because she moved. I said what? Don't you dare. Secretly, I was thinking go ahead and do it, just don't let me know know anything about it.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hey North, I have something else to add to the revenge angle. That song by Carrie Underwood,"Before He Cheats" well, I think a lot of us could get satisfaction from that song, but not about our spouses, but the OP.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Have been offline while moving. We are in our new place and he was great while we were moving, but the last week, he has been very crabby. I have been just ignoring him and carrying on with putting things away, baking for Christmas and organizing things generally. I wonder if he is fighting with OW or if he is feeling guilty? I think he has been feeling guilty lately and wondering what's going on with me. I am feeling better, looking better and am generally happier with myself. Because he refuses to share a a bed with me, he is sleeping in the smallest bedroom where I have stored some boxes. I think this bothers him too.
