pms, sorry to see you here. At the same time, this is a good site with a lot caring people that are either in similar situations, working on restoring their marriage or have actually been where your H is now. Start with reading this thread and do not give up hope. If you haven't already, start on your own journey of personal reflection to find out how you can be the best you.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
This thread is unbelievable.I think the amazing thing is how the LBS spouse has become a much stronger more compassionate person in almost every situation.Trusting in the Lord is paramount and believing in yourself. It does give me hope.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I don't know if anyone reads this thread anymore -- it seems to go back a long way. But I was just reading "RealJourney's" comment and if you're still around. I would love to hear from you. I have my own thread. You can find it under poet. You're journey sounds a lot like mine.
Also, I had no idea you guys and girls stuck it out for as long as you did. I'm only in month eight, and I thought I was a gonner. Maybe there's hope for me yet. Geeeez, I have said that so many times, and then I give up on the M. I'm through the hard part, I think. I'm still sad, day by day, but I'm working through my own issues and moving forward in my own life.
Ready to add my name to this list. DH (Favoriteweirdo) has been home now since Dec. 2007! We've since moved across the country to a new state and a new job far far away from old memories etc. Things are great. I'll try to find my old posts and give a link to them in this. Hope everyone is well.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
Just wondering if there were any new success stories to be posting here......especially looking for restorations after an extended (>2 years) separation with no real hope...................I'm at a point where I know the real journey is about me and what this process does for me, but still like to hear those stories of hope.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
You can look up my "history" here...my H was gone for 2 years...with almost zero contact during that time...we had two adult D's and one young son at the time he left.
It took time but eventually he did come home...this was just before our 25th...we are not going to the Carribean to celebrate our 30th!
There is always hope...but I too realized that this journey was as much about me as him...and I did MY work on me...in the end it paid off.
There is always hope...but I too realized that this journey was as much about me as him...and I did MY work on me...in the end it paid off.
That is success....for us. Three years in but now my wife would rather be at home with us than out. I don't define it as success though....just a new beginning.
You can look up my "history" here...my H was gone for 2 years...with almost zero contact during that time...we had two adult D's and one young son at the time he left.
It took time but eventually he did come home...this was just before our 25th...we are not going to the Carribean to celebrate our 30th!
There is always hope...but I too realized that this journey was as much about me as him...and I did MY work on me...in the end it paid off.
Lin
That is hopeful, but in my case H is still around a lot and has been very clear since the beginning that he is DONE. He stays very involved with the kids (at least as far as baseball/softball is concerned). It's just me that he doesn't want-----I guess it's better late than never to know that what I REALLY need to do is work on me for ME.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
