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#1227857 10/11/07 03:45 PM
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Just been busy, we finally closed on our new house on 9/7. It was a hard road especially toward the end living with my parents. I have been busy unpacking, and have no internet access or phone yet. I have to go to the library. I have also decided to give up real estate as it isn't rewarding enough. After putting in a lot of hours with nothing to show I have been looking for a regular paying job. Just depressing and I have have been feeling a little down lately. Everything seems ok with H now, I have been the one I am worried about now. I sure it will work out. Just wanted to check in and say Hey!

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Hi, I'm new to this. What's your sitch? I'm also in IL....where abouts are you?

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I just moved in a new home. It is close to Joliet.

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Wasn't following your story that much but just skipped through your posts. You have certainly been a trooper for several years. I am sure you never saw yourself as part of your H's mlc in the first place, or surviving it at times. But you seem to be doing just that and it should give you a lot of hope for the future.

If what you have been through didn't kill you, you can do anything. Now you just need to get settled in the new house and create some routine there. I hope you will find work that is both satisfying and rewarding to you. You have earned it. Good luck and keep updating.


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I'll have to read your sitch. I'm in LaGrange, so about 20-30 min from you.

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I was so happy to see that you had posted! It's been a while. I'm sure you are happy to be in your own home these days, despite the work of unpacking and setting up house.

I do hope that you find something more rewarding for you in the way of a career. Glad to see that your h is doing okay. How are the children? What about you? Are you okay?

Look forward to hearing from you.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Yes I know where LaGrange is. I grew up in Burbank, but you are more like an hour from me now. My sister lives in Brookfield.

The last few days I have been finding myself sleeping alot. It is really unusal for me actually.

Snodderly I am so glad to see you still come around. I was under the impression you were going to leave us a while back. Glad to hear from you. Thanks for a everyones support and responses.

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I opted to stay around for a little while longer to help a few of the posters who were having a difficult time.

I'm glad to see that you are posting again. Have you had a checkup? It could be the season or you may be run down or slightly depressed. If you are seeing that you are exhibiting unusual signs in your health, do not wait too long to have them checked out.

I do hope that things are going well for you and your family. You've had a very rough time of it, but it appears that things are slowly smoothing out for you.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Snodderly,

I have not posted on this site ---- I have been going through this MLC madness for just over a year now (H moved out last year).
I am not sure what stage H (49 yrs - married 21 yrs)is but he is now talking to me (& not at the wall - 6 months ago he would not look me in the eye). He seems to be all over the place at the moment -- I see "flashes" of his old self and then any little issues -- he goes "back into hiding" --so far been through the convertible sports car, American Eagle wardrobe, rock concerts with my 15 year old, bought a condo 3 weeks ago etc....not sure if there is OW.

The one thing I want to say to you is A BIG THANK YOU --- you have saved my life & my sanity --- at one time I thought I was the insane one - I could not function - the pain was unbearable. I have read most of your postings .... you did what the therapists could not do for me--- I did not know HOW to move forward -- I did not know how to cope --- NOW I am strong --- thanks to you ---I now have the knowledge to cope -- I focus on me
. I am not sure what the future holds but I am not afraid --- through you I have conquered my fears. I am finding happiness within myself.

You have been around a long time & I hope you are at peace too --- you deserve to be --- you have saved many --- I think of you as my cyber angel -- I pray to get through this madness and I have this feeling that all will be well - when I am sad or unsure -- I read your postings --- you give me hope. THANK YOU SNODDERLY.

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