lost in the land of confusion 8 and holding

[Dr LOve]

I don't rock, I totally screwed up on the phone with H tonight. It's been a REALLY bad day.

Skots,

what happened

Husband

[LuvMyHusband]

sorry, was putting kids to bed.

[LuvMyHusband]

I blew it by asking him to come home tomorrow evening to spend time as a family instead of right before I leave for the airport Saturday a.m.

[Dr LOve]

I blew it by asking him to come home tomorrow evening to spend time as a family instead of right before I leave for the airport Saturday a.m.

Ya so how did ya blow it?? sounds ok to me

[LuvMyHusband]

what I think is kind of funny though is how he tried to say that he's not here because I told him to go and to not come back. I said "yes, unfortunately I said that during the heat of an argument". I have also said many times that I wanted you here and that I missed him. I am proud of myself for being so calm though. He brought up stuff that I had said and done and I said Yes, I know and I'm sorry that it hurt you but I'm no longer going to talk about stuff in the past. I have acknowledged it and apologized. I'm moving on. I also told him that he was staying away because "he" wanted to not because I didn't want him here.

[LuvMyHusband]

actually we talked about the R which I shouldn't have. darn but I am proud of how low key and calm I was. I even said that I have totally let go of things that have hurt me and it's incredible how I feel has been lifted from my shoulders. He almost seemed annoyed that he couldn't upset me with bringing up past things that we have talked about before.

[LuvMyHusband]

sorry, it's been a crazy day, up and down. My friend is coming over so I have to run. She's been a great support. I'll talk to you tomorrow.

[Dr LOve]

Morning,

Ya all would be proud of me. I saw my W was not wearing her ring yesterday and it was not on the dresser where she keeps is when she is not wearing them. She has been working on her office so I just thought she took them off for that reason then..... For some stupid / snooping reason I opened up her jewelry box and her rings were inside. At first it did bother me a little asking myself "why would she put them away?" But I went to sleep not thinking about it. Then this morning I remembered the time she changed the computer password without telling me. I thought she did this so I could not get on the computer but she did this because my oldest D. (who I am finding out my W does not like) was over the house and she did not want her on our Computer. So now I am thinking she "hid” her rings because of the same reason. It sure is hard not to be suspicious and at the same time not seeing real signs and putting your head in the sand in denial

husband

[ninajane]

My husband did exactly the same. In the heat of an arguement i said if that's how you feel then i'll pack your bags. Ten minutes later i said i didn't mean it, but he took it as his Q to leave. He also insisted that i made him go even though i said i didn't really think it was a good idea. He's back again now, we're still wading through mud, but at least he's here. I must say they can be very clever, putting the blame on you, because they feel guilty. Let it go over you head. sounds like you're keeping your cool.

Good luck

Nina

[saffie]

Maybe your W is feeling like that because she is worried your oldest D will judge her, if she finds out the truth, for hurting her dad. Also she may not want the children coming across the email you sent to your wife.

I am convinced things will work out well - otherwise your wife would be acting all snipy about things and not nice at all - quit worring husband - you are on the home run. Just wait until her birthady.

((((HUGS))))))))

Saffie