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Interesting night last night. I turned the light off first and fell asleep quite quickly. Woke up to find myself intimately cuddled with W and W responding!

At first I moved my hand away, but then thought 'if this is what she wants, who am I to complain'. So confused as heck at the moment. I'll leave it a few days and try and initiate to see what happens.

Trying not to analyse it too much. Suppose if she really didn't like me, even this would not happen.

Rollercoaster high at the moment, so will play it cool over the next few days.


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That's great!! I know what you mean by reading too much into it.. but your right if she didn't like you she wouldn't, I can promise you that!!

the rollercoaster is annoying...

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I envy you... my wife won't get near me!!!

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Paul,
It sounds like the yawn and stretch thing where the guy puts his arm around the girls, LOL. Do whatever works!




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Hey Pamar-

Good for you. Let us know how the rest of the weekend went. I'm thinking of you and hoping all went well!

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Hey Pamar, hoping you are well and happy.

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All,

Thanks for the support. Will update tonight, but suffice to say, weekend was fine, no major hiccups.


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That's great. See you tonight. \:\)

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OK, so nice weekend. Lazy Saturday with intimacy thrown in. She was very upset just after so I just held her.

Sunday some friends of my W's invited her to a Beauty day at a local venue and I was happy to let her go there. She enjoyed it and I visited my parents with the children. Picked her up and listened to her day, which she thoroughly enjoyed.

Yesterday was her day off and we needed to get the car fixed. She drove it into town and I met her after her hair appointment (which I had arranged). Very pleasant lunch, followed by a short shopping trip then we split up again.

Last night I started to initiate, but she said she was not in the mood, so I acted ‘as if’ and picked my book up.

Kiss and a cuddle before work today.

Still long way to go, but this weekend, we are going out with friends on Saturday, going away for an overnight on Sunday and spending the day together on Monday and…. In 2 weeks time we all go to Mallorca for 10 days.

Rollercoaster still up there and counsellor next week, so act ‘as if’ for a couple of weeks and see what happens.


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Mark,

Thanks for the reminder. Used patience last night, didn;t complain when she rejected the intimacy.

It'll be a long road and I know that I am in a much better position than lots of people here.


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