I had a friend suggest that some men (and I'm sure some women) get spoiled by the committed spouse. I'm doing everything my solution oriented therapist and the books suggest. I've lovingly detached. If I'm home, he comes by the house whenever he wants to be in his house and finds me pleasant and kind. He goes to work and sits right next to the woman he's infatuated with. What motivation does he have to do ANYTHING else? This could go on forever.
Me: 41 H: 50 M: 15 years S14-D12-D10 S: 05/07 Back home: 08/08 EA: 4 yrs
If he's comfortable with a situation you're helping to co-create, why not do something different? Be less available? Make your schedule less predictable?
