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#1208755 09/22/07 03:13 PM
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Interesting stuff:

"Confabulation (or rather, in the less extreme case, self-deception) does not occur only among severely brain-injured individuals, but, rather, is sometimes the byproduct of the normal process via which explanations for behaviors, impulses, or other actions are provided; particularly those that have causes that are not immediately and/or completely amenable to linguistic translation or interpretation (e.g.,"gap filling"). Although confabulatory, in many instances the explanations seem reasonable, innocuous, and accurate, although completely erroneous."

"In other instances, confabulation is merely the result of an attempt to provide explanations that are acceptable to the self-image. Indeed, it often happens that people will make a"slip of the tongue,"“speak without thinking,"make foolish statements, act on sudden impulses or in a peculiar or insulting manner, or engage in various objectionable activities, and yet no even realize that an inappropriate act was committed. Of course, if pointed out, this does not prevent the left hemisphere (i.e., the speaking half of the brain) from inventing numerous explanations or denials. If questioned, the individual may claim to have"no idea"as to"what came over them"or, in other instances, dismiss the action as a rare and momentary lapse that is not as bad as it seems. Such explanations commonly are produced, for example, by young women who have been successfully seduced. (See Joseph, 1980, p. 777)."

http://brainmind.com/Confabulation.html

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-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
NOPkins #1209482 09/23/07 11:18 PM
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"Speak w/o thinking" "act on sudden impulses" -- sounds like me! It actually happened last week -- emailed a co-worker/friend and said something I should have just kept my mouth shut about or at least gone in and talked to her about instead of emailing, as emails are sometimes construed the wrong way. I have also tried to be the bigger person and also do what I seemed to have been trained by my dad to do, apologize even if it wasn't necessarily my fault. In this instance, yeah, I should have just bit my tongue. She doesn't seem to be willing to just let it go.


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S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
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Good day for this one NOPs. It is like the issue of why "eye witnesses" aren't as reliable as we like to think they are. There is discussion on my thread of what, if any, sexual secret my H is hiding that causes him to not act sexually within our R. Whatever it is I'm quite sure it is easier to "explain" to himself while keeping it hidden. In the light of day more explanation becomes necessary and confabulation becomes more obvious.

Karen

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NOP,

Yeah, the mind can do "wonderful" things, in a manner of speaking.

Ever hear of hypnogogic and hypnopompic illusions? Or the Hawthorne effect?

I get into this sort of stuff all the time when I talk to people about alien abductions, UFOs, the Face on Mars, etc.

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Great minds think alike Karen.



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Book

Vital Lies Simple Truths "The Psychology of Self Deception" by Daniel Goleman

This is an older book by the author of Emotional Intelligence. Might hold some insight into this issue.

Karen


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