Ok, I need some advice. I filed for Spousal Support w/o Divorce last month, H got a lawyer and countered by filing for Divorce (along with refusing to pay any bills and even requesting I pay his L-total bs since he makes 4x what I make). Anyway, I have a L appt in the morning to answer his petition and, even though I didn't really want a divorce, I am not sure if I want to contest it.. It would cost alot more and I'm not sure if I want to stay married to this person, a man who refuses to give me any $$, I am paying all the bills, and he even suggested that I ASK MY MOM FOR HELP. This house is in both of our names & I am on disability and don't make enough for the mortgage, let alone the other bills. I been reading about some real a**hole WAHs on this board, guys with girlfriends, guys who ignore their kids but are still helping with the bills and it makes me think that my H is just not a decent person. I really didn't want a divorce but I respect his choice and I don't think contesting it would benefit me. Am I still standing for my marriage if I don't contest it?
Thanks, Nugget. I know you are right. I never filed anything when he left before so this is definately doing something different. I remember when he was gone for 7 months in 2002-2003 I had to get help from the food pantry and St Vincent DePaul to pay my utilities. At the time he had quit his job and left the state so he had no $$ to give me. At the time he was so depressed that he was hallucinating and having suicidal thoughts. I don't think he is quite that bad yet, since he is still able to work (working 70+ hrs/week) He really needs psych help, I hope he gets it. The lawyer I talked to wants $5000, non-refundable. I have 8 days left to respond to H's petition so I am gonna do alot of praying. He filed for D in 2001 because he thought I was gonna file but dismissed it so it's possible that he will change his mind.
