CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) often used for OCD and anxiety disorders, but extremely useful for other situations (I found it surprisingly effective for my son's tactile defensiveness!). I've read many books on it (my son has OCD) and have consulted with one of the leading researchers in the field.
Saffie, I'm glad to hear you are finding it helpful. I really love CBT.
P.s. My apologies praying wife for hijacking your thread!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Yeah my MC was a CBT guy. I guess it had its pluses and minuses, because he kept directing the conversation towards reality wife didn't like it. But when he talked to me even though I didn't like some of the implications I was thinking in my head, "you know I probably should work on that". It helped me to think about the situation and myself in ways I hadn't before.
H 30 (me) W 28 Married 9 yrs 2 children EA found out on 7/5/07 ILYBNILWY 8/25/07 The unexamined life is not worth living -Socrates
It's been a few weeks since I posted to this thread. Do you think it makes a difference who initiates ML? It's ALWAYS my H's idea. Even when I try to discourage him, he is persistent. There's definitely a lot of intimacy, caring, etc. too. He'll be very loving towards me for a few days after we ML, and then he reverts back to being platonic.
H still insists that the OW isn't very good. Didn't Paul Newman say something like, "Why go out for a hamburger when I can get filet mignon at home?" I don't know about you, but if I was a guy and I had a choice between a questionable hamburger with a ton of issues and a prime well-marbled steak with God on her side, I'd go for the steak! In my humble opinion, of course. ;-)
But then again, this is adultery we're dealing with, so H and OW are obviously not in their right minds.
