....i just want to know HOW someone can just leave their home and family, sayng they never loved spouse, and don;t care at all, saying it is "liberating". I can;t take these questions anymore, but there are simpy NO ANSWERS. I hurt and am sad beyond words today.....
There are no answers, and wracking your brain trying to find one will prevent you from healing. Let it go, your partner clearly doesn't share the same values that you do else they would not walk away like that, and YOU deserve someone in your life who values you.
I share your pain
Me - 39 W - 33 M - 5yrs Bomb - 8/5 2007 Moving out - 9/8 2007
Its so hard to be left with such a mess and heartbreak. They say things they don't mean and rewrite history to relieve their guilt. Focus on you, making yourself more stable, and try to learn that you cannot control their behavior. I still struggle with that one.
There are no answers, and wracking your brain trying to find one will prevent you from healing. Let it go, your partner clearly doesn't share the same values that you do else they would not walk away like that, and YOU deserve someone in your life who values you.
I share your pain
This does not sound very DB. I agree with what you wrote, but this sounds like anti DB rhetoric, Psych. I thought the book says that the Walk Away Spouse often rewrites history to match their current mood or unhappiness in their situation. They cannot imagine their future being a happy one so we have to help them remember how we fell in love in the first place. That is why doing 180s now is so important. GAL is so important. Showing your partner a glimpse of a model happy marriage is important. You are also likely going to do this alone, but you can do it!
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
