3 days to go

[Psch1968]

Hi everyone - you can see my thread in the newcomers section.

Well I won't repeat myself, but suffice to say she is moving out Saturday and seems intent (just like Lizzie's H) on eradicting the memory from her life. Won't talk about our problems, but wants to remain friends and has acted very 'friendly' in the final 2 weeks under same roof.

My question is - any ideas / opinions on what to say / do between now and the moment she leaves? One half of me wants to plead with her again, one half wants to show her I am strong and act 'as if' and the other half (yes I know 3 - lol) wants to ask her what happens nect and see of we can agree some 'boundaries' for the seperation?

Thoughts welcome pls - struggling to make sense of what to do next?

[SallyM]

have you read db/dr? if you haven't, I'd highly recommend getting one or both and starting there.

I do think setting up bounderies is a good idea with any separation. you don't have to necessarily lay out a game plan for ending your marriage...in fact, you want to avoid that as much as possible. she may not know what happens next, what she wants next.

as for how you should act, as hard as it is, try not to beg/plead. do your 180s...be strong, make changes (sincere ones).

good luck!