Did you think saying "I miss you" was too clinging and needy? This experience really has been one step forward and two back.
I have heard of Dr. Dobson's book and will go to the library to get it tommorrow. Who is Homer? Would you give me his/her entire name so I can look into that one too.
I do agree with your signature quote and that is one of my latest goals.
Thanks for the book referrals.
The task ahead of you is never as great as the Power behind you ~ unknown
I read Homer and there was a lot of good information-but I don't agree with the dating. Especially with my H. Both of his x's had affairs. This wouldn't work for me.
I'm the one who asked him to leave and I know I made a big mistake. I'm confused. It looks like my H and I are at a stalemate or impasse. He's gone dark on me. My confusion is that if I continue to go dark on him there is no contact; and when I leave a voicemail for him about a business situation (and it's "happy talk, brief" (Homer) I still don't get a response. (well once in 5 weeks).
This no contact doesn't seem to be working. There must be another way for my situation.
Five days after asking H to leave I wrote him a letter of apology for my actions and asked him to forgive me for hurting him. Do I need to keep apologizing. I don't think he believes my first apology and I think he is still hurting.
What is working is keeping myself busy with learning what I did wrong and how to handle my anger and hurt. I've read many books and I see where I have been wrong and have a lot to learn.
How do you show love and acceptance when there is no contact?
The task ahead of you is never as great as the Power behind you ~ unknown
