I believe I overreacted when I asked my H to leave our home. It was done in anger and I think I was too hasty and trying to get him to change. After an argument 2 weeks ago I told him to leave, then we talked and I retracted and both of us said we'd try. The issue is over working 70-80 hrs a week, being uncommunicative, not doing anything as a couple. He feels my expectations are too high although he has made a 180 turn since we married 2 yrs ago; and he has begun a side business 18 months ago. I think I became a complainer and it hurt the situation. I tried keeping myself busy,but I didn't feel it was helping; I became very lonely. Last week he didn't come home all night; when he called in the morning he didn't apologize and finally said he had been angry all week with me for telling him to leave, got drunk, stayed in his car all night and didn't answer my calls.( He doesn't drink often). I told him to come get his things and leave. He didn't fight it but did apologize. After he left, I emailed him a day later to get some bill info. He emailed the info back and said "I hope you're okay." No futher word. He is a proud man, unforgiving many times, and is private. After reading several DB articles and posts I can see how I was going about this in the wrong way. I regret what I said and did but I also feel I can't let someone walk over me like that. I want to call or email him but I don't know if I should; I guess I'm afraid of being rejected. Should I be patient and bide my time or make the first move since I'm the one who told him to leave. Married 2 1/2 years
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